David's Gay Dish

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 28

2012-03-02T11:30:00.000-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about the autobiographies of Gary Cooper and Diana Vreeland. I am writing my autobiography called "Is It Hot In Here Or Is It Just Me?" Stay tuned next week for an interview with a very interesting man!

Uno de 50 & Tab Hunter vs. Henry the Eighth

2012-03-01T11:30:00.002-05:00

PUL0650 | Anclado al mar | Unisex silver plated chain bracelet | $129

If you are in Miami Beach check out Uno de 50 on Lincoln Road. Uno de 50 has great jewelery at great prices. Very front edge. Big gems, silver, leather. I love it. Very simple yet elegant jewelry/fashion for men and women. Check it out!

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Tab Hunter

Henry the Eighth

Dear David,
I married a Tab Hunter lookalike and now have wound up with Henry the Eighth’s twin. I do not feel like having sex with him at all. Do I have to?
~Uninterested

Dear U.N.,
Can you spell “No”? No you do not have to sleep with someone who has lost all their sexual appeal. Particularly by eating too much. I cannot understand these people who would rather eat then “f*ck.” As they say in the modeling industry, “Lose twenty pounds and come back.” Good luck.

Handsomest Man in the World-Micheal Kors model

2012-02-29T11:00:00.001-05:00

Who is the guy in the new Michael Kors ads? He is VERY handsome. He gets the Handsomest Man in the World award this week! Whew! What do you think?

Life can be complicated...

2012-02-28T10:30:00.000-05:00

Dear David,
I am reading a really good book called "A Box of Darkness: The Story of A Marriage" by Sally Ryder Brady - her memoir about being in a long marriage and finding out right after her husband's death that her husband way gay. Do you think this happens often?
~Wonderin'

Dear Wonderin',
I wrote a book called "The Secret Lives of Married Men" about gay men who married women.

I think this is happening less and less because women are very well informed nowadays. I have read Mrs. Brady's book and thought it was great. Years ago women rarely had careers, were supposed to be virgins when they married and so on. And also I think men who are gay are less likely to lead a closeted life these days, as social pressure gets less and less all the time. What is interesting about this book is they did have good sex and she really loved him. She should have left at some point, but they had four children. Life can be complicated. It's up to you to try to keep it less complicated.

Can you just be in love with one part of your lover?

2012-02-27T11:00:00.003-05:00

Dear David,
I read your blog last Thursday from Peter Perplexed and I am not sure that you can just be in love with one part of your lover. It doesn't seem to be very mature.
~Doubting Thomas

Dear D.T.,
I know, I know. But of course sex and love are not very mature. And perhaps if you only love one part and the rest of him is just no, it will inevitably not work out. But the rest of him might be fine. I do think you need to be hung up sexually on someone to really love them, otherwise it is just roommates with a little sex thrown in. And I find that immature.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 27

2012-02-24T11:30:00.005-05:00

Today I'm talking about my latest book "How to Hit 70 Doing 100" for men and women, gay or straight - this book is for everyone and is a must to keep a positive outlook on life and aging!

"Don't think of yourself as getting older, think of yourself as getting more sophisticated"
~David Leddick

I love...

2012-02-23T11:00:00.000-05:00

Dear David,
I love my boyfriend's penis, maybe more than I love him. Is that all right?
~PeterPerplexed

Dear Peter,
Honey, you've got to start somewhere.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Charles Devoe

2012-02-22T11:00:00.000-05:00

Today is Wednesday and today's handsomest man is from a Mangano ad spread from a European magazine. The model's name is Charles Devoe and he is very handsome.

Sadly, Charles Devoe passed away last year, read more about his very successful modeling career while he was alive here.

(Photo: Mangano Campaign AW10 by Maurizio Montani featuring Charles Devoe)

What to do...

2012-02-21T11:00:00.002-05:00

Dear David,
What do I do when I'm about the have sex with someone I like/am attracted to very much for the first time and I can't get it up?
~D.

Dear D.,
I've heard of this but I don't quite get it. If this other guy is so sexy what's bothering you? He's not going to like it? You're too big? You're not big enough? I think you should just go down on him and if you never get it up, who is to know? Actually, try thinking of someone you find fantastically sexy in the midst of everything and see it that doesn't energize you. I bet it will.

My boyfriend insists on...

2012-02-20T11:00:00.001-05:00

Dear David,
My boyfriend insists on talking dirty to me while we have sex. He uses demeaning sayings like “Take it, b#%*h” or “You know you want it, sl#t.” This turns me off. He doesn’t do it all the time but he does it a lot. What do I do?
~M.I. Too nice

Dear M. I.,
I don’t think you’re too nice. But he isn’t really calling you those names, he is indulging in “repetitive sex.” Which I don’t like. Many relationships wither because the sex is always the same. That’s why a lot of gay men like one night stands. They can do the same tired old thing every time with a different person. I think you may want to try some new stuff on him to see if that stimulates him. Or just sit him down and say you have to do some innovative stuff. Drag him to a public bathroom. Or do it in an elevator late at night and hope no one else gets in. Stuff like that. Then he’ll probably say things like “Are you crazy?!” Which is much better.

My interview with PASSION radio show - Dr. Laurie Betito

2012-02-17T15:54:00.000-05:00

Hello my friends and loved ones,
Last night I was on the PASSION radio show with Dr. Laurie Betito talking about sex, love and romance! Please click here to listen, I promise you will not be disappointed!

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 26

2012-02-17T11:00:00.002-05:00

I have a new book to be published in May 2012 called "Gorgeous Gallery", click my video to hear all about it my darlings!

Fashion Talk ~ Long Hair is Everywhere!

2012-02-16T11:00:00.000-05:00

It's fashion day! I just got back from Montevideo, Uruguay and men with long hair abound there. Even very long hair. Something to think about. They seem to be wearing almost shoulder length - it's summer so they don't have alot else going on. Think about it for next summer...

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Dear David,
My lover doesn't look at me when he kisses me. He either closes his eyes or looks off to the side. What does this mean when we are having sex?
~Look At Me

Dear Look At Me,
He may be thinking of someone else, or he just may find romance and sex too personal. I think I would just grab him and turn his face to me and say, "Look at me! I'm crazy about you!" Can you do that? It might advance your love affair to another level. It can't hurt to try.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Daniel

2012-02-15T10:30:00.002-05:00

Handsomest Man in the World today is my friend Daniel. Daniel is very smart, funny and good looking. A good reason to head to Uruguay! The men down there are so handsome.

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Dear David,
I have a new boyfriend and I would like to invite him over for a homecooked meal (and more!) but I am a terrible cook. What should I do?
~Kitchen Clumsy

Dear K.K.,
I have written a novel called "Never Eat In." I am rather opposed to cooking at home as once they see you in the kitchen they tend to forget seeing you in bed. My second rule is "never go to the bathroom together." These are my two rules for a good relationship. Don't worry about cooking. Order in. That's all right.

It's Valentine's Day, the only holiday I really like...

2012-02-14T11:00:00.003-05:00

It's Valentine's Day, the only holiday I really like. You don't have to pretend to have feelings you don't have. Here's an interesting inquiry that's all about love:

Dear David,
I am involved in a love affair. I don't know if it's real or not but he says things like "You just have to touch me and I get hard." There is really no future because there is an age difference but I feel very lucky to be in love with someone who seems to love me. What do you think?
~The Loved One

Dear Loved One,
Anyone involved in a love affair is lucky. Do you hear me?! Lucky. As to whether he really loves you or not, who knows and who cares? You're the one having the experience. One of my friends said when in a similar circumstance, "Either he is into me or he's the best actor in the world." I said, "What's the difference?" Go for it and enjoy it.

(Photo of me above by David Vance for my book "How to Be Gay in the 21st Century")

Sudden personality transformation...

2012-02-13T11:00:00.003-05:00

Dear David,
I recently met a guy very nice, serious job, mid-thirties, good-looking. He seemed very interested in me and asked me out. We went to a very good dinner, had a few drinks, went back to his place, began making love and suddenly he slapped me very hard in the face. I laughed but the event was over. What do you think? Should I see this guy again?
~Anti S. & M.

Dear Anti,
And I'm pretty sure you are not an Aunty. Startling stuff when there is a sudden personality transformation. My immediate reaction is that this man is not for you. Because with that slap coming out of nowhere there are hidden depths. The nice guy you had dinner with is something of a front I think. What a person does sexually is the real person. I think you have to say adieu. Keep me posted if he calls and apologizes and wants to proceed further with the relationship. I'd like to know.

(photo via superstock.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 25

2012-02-10T11:00:00.001-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about strivers, slackers and fantasists. Which out of the three do you think you are? I would love to here your comments!

Fashion Talk with David Leddick - video

2012-02-09T13:30:00.005-05:00

Today I thought I would talk about the latest fashion I brought back from Montevideo, Uruguay in a video. Enjoy!

Any sexual regrets?

2012-02-07T11:00:00.004-05:00

Dear David,
Do you have any sexual regrets?
~Just Wondering

Dear Just Wondering,
I'm not quite sure what you mean but if you are referring to family, children, etc. - definitely "No." My life has always been about romance, not domesticity. And in that field I regret nothing.

As far as directly sexual regrets, only one. The father of a man I was very much in love with but who never became my lover, wanted to sleep with me. It would have been a kind of act of revenge on his son. And for that reason I didn't. Now I think I should have.

The Men of Montevideo vs. Miami

2012-02-06T11:00:00.010-05:00

Dear David,
I know you have been in Montevideo, Uruguay for the past three weeks. Is it true that the men are very good-looking there? How do they compare to the men in Miami Beach?
~Just Interested

Dear Just Interested,
I think that Montevideo and Miami Beach have the best looking men in any of the major cities that I have been in. The big difference is that the men in Miami Beach are very aware of it. And they are for the most part quite spoiled and have the gay thing of pretending they are not interested in anyone else.

In Montevideo they are so many good looking men that they think being handsome is normal and think little about it. And as you may have heard about the South American world, some think if you don't "bottom" you're not gay. And they are not at all egotistical.

(Photo of Montevideo, Uruguay via flickr)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 24

2012-02-03T11:00:00.003-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk more about my books. Enjoy!

If you haven't heard ~ my latest article for The Huffington Post entitled "The call me a Slut at 82" is up, click here to read!

Fashion Talk ~ Andrej Pejić

2012-02-02T11:00:00.012-05:00

What I find intriguing is the new very successful blonde model who strangely enough is a man - Andrej Pejić. He is from Bosnia and Herzegovina and is working runway and now moving into fashion shoots. He has a lovely face, good hair and I just wonder about the shoes. When I do a drag role my feet are small enough that in really high heels they look okay. At least you don't particularly notice them. Feet are a drag queen's biggest problem.
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Dear David,
I just don't get foot fetishes. Do you?
~Feet on the ground

Dear Ms. Grounded,
Maybe it's just our feet. Are you tall like me? Perhaps our feet are just too far away from our heart. But kiss me and we're rockin'!

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Why it's...

2012-02-01T11:00:00.001-05:00

...ME, again! Yes my darlings it's my blog, I thought why not?

Yet another fabulous publicity still from the magical David Vance.

Which one do you prefer? The one above or the one from last week? Click here to see last weeks publicity still.

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Dear David,
What do you like best about a man?
~Just Curious

Dear Just Curious,
Aren't you getting a little too personal? What have you heard?! Anyway, I always quote Mae West who said, "He was a man and I like that about a person."

Here are some other fantastic Mae West quotes:
"I only like two kinds of men, domestic and imported."

"I never worry about diets. The only carrots that interest me are the number you get in a diamond."

"A hard man is good to find."

"Don't keep a man guessing too long - he's sure to find the answer somewhere else."

"Give a man a free hand and he'll try to put it all over you."

All anyone is thinking about these days...

2012-01-31T10:22:00.001-05:00

Dear David,
Sex, sex, sex. That seems to be all anyone is thinking about these days...
~Sex Fatigued

Dear Sex Fatigued,
It isn't your fault and it isn't their fault. Blame it on your body/hormones. No matter how anyone else is acting. They are either letting it happen or repressing it. It is your body, darling. And it doesn't ever go away, no matter what they tell you.

Unconfident about my body

2012-01-30T11:00:00.001-05:00

Dear David,
I feel very unconfident about my body, although I have never had complaints. Is there an easy fix?
~The Busy Body

Dear B.B.,
From your signature I get the impression that unconfident body is getting around plenty. Yes, just put on a bathrobe and keep it on until the last split second. After that, it's too late for your bed companion to back out. And you're probably fine or you wouldn't be there in the first place.

Going somewhere for that redezvous? Take along a little shoulder bag with your lightweight rober within. What do you think is in all those big bags everyone is carrying anyways? Gym clothes?

(Photo via menshealth.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 23

2012-01-27T11:00:00.005-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about some of my books. Enjoy!

And great news ~ my latest article for The Huffington Post entitled "The call me a Slut at 82" is up, click here to read!

Fashion & Just Call Me DeeDee Leddick!

2012-01-26T11:00:00.007-05:00

Fashion, fashion, fashion. What I have for you today is still about the jacket. The little jacket even looks great with shorts for those of you who have escaped south:

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Dear David,
I want to have a nickname. I never have and I just think it’s a personal and intimate thing I would like to have. Have you ever had a nickname?
~No Nickname

Dear Nick,
I’m giving you a nickname right now. It’s Bubbles. Do you remember Bubbles DeVere on “Little Britain”?

Yes, in college my fraternity brothers called me “Leddy.” Leddy Leddick. Is that sickening enough? My sister always called me “Davis.” I rather liked that. And my real nickname which only a few of the closest called me is “DeeDee.” Yup, that’s right, DeeDee Leddick. Please don’t tell anyone.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Why it's ME!

2012-01-25T11:00:00.006-05:00

Guess who is Handsomest Man in the World this week? It’s ME my darlings. I have new publicity stills from the magical David Vance. The gray jacket is a couture item from Paree. Don’t hate me.
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Dear David,
I have just taken a new job and suddenly I don’t feel my usual confident self. Any suggestions on how to keep up a brave front?
~A Little Down

Dear Little Down,
Up, my dear, up! You know that I always say that when we awake in the dark we are always seventeen. Full of self-doubts. You just haven’t been there long enough to show those folks how capable you are and yet so calm and funny and human at the same time. I also say, “The trick is not caring.” You’re just in a new job. Keep your emotions for your private life. Do not worry about what they will think of you. Concern yourself that you are really doing a good job. And as long as you are doing your best you can think well of yourself. When I worked for Revlon I used to say, “We brought them caviar and they just wanted peanut butter. So we’ll just give them peanut butter.” Do a really good job and then you can take it down a notch for those uncomprehending bosses.

I have always modeled my life on the great ballerinas...

2012-01-24T11:00:00.007-05:00

(Ballet Russes by August Macke, 1912)

Dear David,
In last week’s blog you said you liked jewels. That doesn’t sound much like you, always so much more concentrated on what is happening between people than symbols of wealth. Explain, please.
~David Devoted

Dear Devoted One,
I love you. But you should know that I have always modeled my life on the great ballerinas. Lots of jewelry and houses in other countries - so you can flee on a moment’s notice and have somewhere else to live. At the Russian Revolution it was the ballerinas who beat it to France and England and then took care of all the other Russian refugees, mostly from the royal family.

I have always been aware that life can fall apart quite suddenly. I am a child of the Great Depression - hence my house in France and in Uraguay. Although, actually I am feeling very upbeat right now and think everything is going to work out great in the next few years.

Cozy Cuddler Needs Help!

2012-01-23T11:00:00.012-05:00

I found this picture below in an avante garde magazine. I knew you all would enjoy it. It is from a series of photographs of men with french bread sticking out of their pants. Would you have guessed french bread? That is the interesting point of the photograph. It is meant to look like something else...

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Dear David,
I have a new lover and we get along great sexually but he is not at all cuddly in bed. Any suggestions?
~Cozy Cuddler

Dear Cozy Cuddler,
Get all that cozy cuddling out of the way before you make bamboola. If he likes to be isolated later, let it be. Get a big pillow and clutch that. He sounds great. Just imagine if he liked to cuddle but didn’t want to make bamboola?! That happens. Count yourself lucky.

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Fashion ~ Lovely Jewelry & Leopard Clutch

2012-01-19T11:00:00.002-05:00

It’s fashion day!

I love jewelry. Just found this costume jewelry by Alexandre Vauthier. I like this kind of bulky jewelry that could be real. You will also notice that the “Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” look is here. You never know when a little fake leopard clutch purse will come in handy.

I think this jewelry is a copy of a real bijou worn by Mona von Bismarck, a wealthy fashion figure from the past. She started out the daughter of a stableman and later married a few wealthy man, then wound up in the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame in 1958.
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Dear David,
My mother recently has been acting as though she is deaf, which I don’t think she is. Also limps a little and says she may need a cane soon, although I think there is nothing at all wrong with her leg. What’s cooking?
~Smothered by Mother

Dear Smother,
You’re not one of the brothers are you? The Smothers Brothers? You are probably so young you don’t even know who they are. As for your mother, she is succumbing to the “Pity Poor Me” syndrome, that happens to older people. Take here to Miami Beach and let he see those high steppers in the sun. She’ll get over wanting to be older.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Cesar DeFuentes

2012-01-18T11:00:00.008-05:00

Handsomest Man in the World today is Cesar DeFuentes, actor and adorable guy in Miami Beach. How about this brand new head shot from the incomparable David Vance?
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Dear David,
Should pickles be eaten with the fingers?
~Picky Eater

Dear Picky Eater,
No. The fingers should be eaten separately.

(This is an old joke but I love it.)

2012-01-17T11:00:00.004-05:00

Dear David,
I have just moved in with my lover, who is relatively new in my life. While he was out of town for a few days I decided to be a saint and reorganize his closets and dresser. In his sweater drawer in the back under the sweaters I found a dildo. A sizable dildo. More sizable than me. He has never expressed dissatisfaction with me, but why do you think that dildo is among his possessions?
~Dildo Doubter

Dear Dildo Doubter,
Beats the hell out of me. But my guess is, he gave it a try and it was way too big. I don’t think you are going to have to do any strap-on duty.

2012-01-16T11:00:00.004-05:00

Dear David,
A few months ago I was seeing two different men. One was definitely less interested than the other and now I am very much involved with the other, a man I am coming to love very much.

However, man #2 has called and wants to have dinner “just as friends.” I told this to my love and he seemed a little quiet about it. I accepted to go to dinner but now I think I made a mistake. Your advice, please.
~Tell me

Dear Tell Me,
You cannot go to dinner. You can go to lunch. Sleeping with someone after lunch is rare. You’re safe to do that. But if you are truly with your lover, his competition is out of the question. This isn’t just me, this is common social practice. I am sort of against being friends with ex’s anyway. It always gets messy. You can go to dinner with your new lover. That is ok. Bet the ex will not want to do that.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 21

2012-01-13T11:00:00.000-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Dolph Spain about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Kenny Wormald

2012-01-11T11:00:00.001-05:00

I have been saving this choice because it's a bit unusual, but Kenny Wormald is Handsomest Man in the World this week. He's an actor who came up through the ranks as a dancer. He's in a remake of "Footloose." He's got it. He's from Boston and that in itself is a bit unusual for Handsomest Man. They're so white there.

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Dear David,
I'm thinking of having my nose done - then maybe more men will like me.
~The Schnoz

Dear Schnoz,
Don't you dare. That is so 20th century. A big nose is aristocratic. A big nose is masculine. A big nose says you've got something else big lurking about on your premises. And then for some reason the plastic surgeons always make the nose too small. You tell me.

However if you need your neck tucked up, your eyes de-bagged and that kind of stuff, I'm all for it. You want your face to project you. And please don't tell me you're not lovable, I'm sure you are.

Gay actors staying in the closet

2012-01-10T11:00:00.003-05:00

Dear David,
What's your feeling about gay actors staying in the closet and even getting married to women?
~Disappointed

Dear Disappointed,
I always quote Mae West's mother, when Mae didn't want to take a movie role because she didn't like it. Her mother said, "Oh Mae, don't be selfish. Think of your career." Exactly. Movie actors are very unlikely to love anyone because they are thinking of their career. Coming out means their career is pretty well over. The American public isn't ready for it. And I have to admit, even when I see Jody Foster playing a romantic lead I can't help but think, "Oh, come on. Really?" No, I think you have to accept if they are going to play hunky, sexy males they have to stay in there.

I don’t really feel like sleeping with my lover anymore...

2012-01-09T11:00:00.000-05:00

Dear David,
I don’t really feel like sleeping with my lover anymore, should I?
~Bedtime Blues

Dear B.B.,
You never need to sleep with anyone if you don’t feel like it - however this is your lover. Are you doing the same routine thing in bed? Ask him what he would like to do that he hasn’t done yet. You might like it too. How about you? Is there stuff you would like to do that you haven’t done with him? Give him a couple of drinks and bend him to your will. I love it when people say “You made me do it.”

(photo via cosmopolitan.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 20

2012-01-06T11:00:00.000-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Karston about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Fashion Talk - Now that winter is here

2012-01-05T11:30:00.001-05:00

Now that winter is here I have some suit looks for you so you can be great looking and still stay warm.

The one above is brown tweed from a company called Duckie Brown. The matching gloves come with them too, but I think that's going a bit too far.

The other is a black and white check and this really looks good. Again, you don't need the black and white gloves from Yohji Yamamoto. The suit is by Dries van Noten. Both of these suits have shortish jackets, tight waists, and are warm enough that you can probably scoot around town with a big scarf and you'll be fine without a coat during business hours. I think you can find suits like this for a lot less than the ones shown here.

I realize that a lot of you blogettes are not in cold climates so here a little item for people where it's hot. I love this hat. You'll have to dig around in second hand shops and then put some kind of battered flowers on the brim. Everything else you have on has to be really plain; black T-shirt and jeans for example. You will be the one. This look could be good for you girls too. We are in the 21st century, everyone can wear the same things.
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Dear David,
Do you have any sex questions?
~Interested

Dear Interested,
Yes, why do American men never look like they would really like to have sex? South American men always look like they can't wait. What's the deal?

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Giovanni Arvaneh

2012-01-04T11:00:00.009-05:00

Someone new and different for you for Handsomest Man in the World this week, Mr. Giovanni Arvaneh an actor from Germany. I had lunch with him last week. He's got it!

Please click here for my interview with Giovanni about his wonderful new movie, Zenne Dancer.

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Dear David,
Do you ever look back on your past and realize there were men who wanted to sleep with you whom you turned down that now you wonder why you did?
~Regretting

Dear Regretting,
Of course, of course, of course. But when I pull up the whole situation it was always because I was involved with someone else at the time, which I think is correct behavior. And then there were other men that now I realize they were interested and it didn't connect at all. One of them said to me, "You have the emotions of a razor blade." I had no idea what he meant then. However I should add, I don't think I missed out on the love of my life and I don't think you did either.

Aging but Still Hot

2012-01-03T11:00:00.000-05:00

Dear David,
At what age should a person stop thinking about sex?
~Aging but Still Hot

Dear Hot, Hot, Hot,
Never. Never stop thinking about sex. Your body needs it or you are going to get sick. Everybody knows that. I don't know what you consider aging, but you will be sexually with it as long as you have someone around who turns you on. If you're single, head south. Latin Americans might well find you worth some time and action. If not single, I kind of hate to suggest it, but maybe you will have to bite the bullet and do some cheating. And for god's sake, don't then go home and talk about it.

Happy New Year!

2012-01-02T14:00:00.002-05:00

Happy New Year! Don't you have the feeling that 2012 is going to be great?! Maybe some things will be ending but other things will be starting and it could all go our way. Here's our first inquiry of 2012!

Dear David,
I have a friend, more an acquaintance, who is not only gay but very much of the traditional school with a high pitched voice, lots of exaggerated hand gestures, that walk as though he's wearing a tight skirt. You know, one of those guys who seems to have graduated from the Eve Arden school of charm. There aren't even any women around anymore like that. I feel that guys like this give being gay a bad name. Tell me. Should I try to make him act more butch?
~Confused About All This

Dear Confused,
You homophobe. Your acquaintance is just who he is. I don't think being 21st century gay menas acting like a baseball-paying heterosexual. It means live and let live. As you've heard me say many times. "You're always somebody's type." Someone out there is looking for a twitchy little honey just like him. On the other hand, you don't have to hang around with him if he makes you uncomfortable.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 19

2011-12-30T11:00:00.004-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to German actor Giovanni Arvaneh about his new movie, Zenne Dancer. Enjoy!

For more information on the talented and handsome Giovanni Arvaneh, please visit: www.giovanni-arvaneh.de

For more information Zenne Dancer the movie, please visit: www.zennethemovie.com
and Zenne the Movie on facebook

Fashion Talk & New Year Advice

2011-12-29T11:00:00.017-05:00

Fashion Day, and I know, I know, I know - we haven't even really gotten into winter yet but I am looking forward to the Spring. I'm headed to Uruguay in mid-January and it is now mid-summer there, I'm feeling kind of jackety.

How about a blazer but rev it up with colored buttons? I kind of like it.

How about a cross-check jacket and a scarf twisted about your neck instead of a tie? Somehow this looks really masculine to me.

How about blue on blue on blue with a little zipper something instead of a shirt and that little scarf. I think this looks really up-to-the-minute. Of course you may have to go really blonde. Go ahead. I do and I call it "Suicide Blonde." And the suicide is not mine. Picture of me below:

I just want you to know that the other day I was in a second-hand shop and found a small leather purse on a long strap. I threw it over my shoulder and said to the clerk, "Does this look to girly?" He said, "Not on you!"

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Dear David,
The New Year approaches. Am I going to find love?
~Hoping

Dear Hoping,
Yes. Definitely. Remember, we get what we expect not what we hope for. Expect love. Don't be surprised where it comes from. Don't put all kinds of restrictions up like age, income, race, height. I think this is going to be a great year for all of us. And remember, love is more important than anything else. And it's about you loving somebody - not waiting for somebody to love you. Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!

Handsomest Man in the World & Kissing Advice

2011-12-28T11:00:00.004-05:00

Handsomest Man in the World day is here! I found these pages from a magazine from maybe a year ago. This model is great. I have no idea who he is and have never seen him in a magazine again, but for a moment there he was it. And I'll bet he still is.
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Dear David,
My lover doesn't like to kiss. I love to. Do you have any suggestions?
~The Kissing Fool

Dear Kissing Fool,
Try biting his ear. Or his nose. Or his nipples. Or you know. It's almost as good. And he will like it mucho.

What to Do When Partner Shows Less Interest?

2011-12-27T11:00:00.004-05:00

Dear David,
What should one do when the person they love is showing less interest in sleeping with them?
~Christmas Cheerless

Dear Cheerless,
Honey, it's all about your body. Are you too thin, too droopy, too this or too that? You need to get into shape. Eat more, eat less, get yourself to the gym, walk instead of drive, go to a dance class. Get going!

Once your body looks better I promise they'll be crawling all over you. And how about their body? Does it deserve a little criticism on your part? Maybe when your body is looking swell you'll be the one not in the mood and consider getting the hell out of there.

(photo via munfitnessblog.com)

Pretending to Have Emotions Around Family

2011-12-26T11:00:00.005-05:00

I saved this question for the day after Christmas as I thought many of you out there might need it:

Dear David,
Have you had the experience of being with your family and having to pretend to have emotions you do not really have? There is an attempt at cheer but the years of inter-family problems and frequent unhappiness which no one wants to discuss makes being cheery difficult most of the time, Have you had this experience?
~Alone with the Loved Ones

Dear Alone-A,
Don’t worry, my darling. This is how it usually is. I myself dislike feigning emotions I do not have but sometimes you must. The way I handled it with my family was pretending I was being paid to be there. Coming from an advertising background, I pretended that my family were the clients and I was being paid a thousand dollars a day to be with them. I was always pleasant, smoothed things over, entertained them, told funny stories, suggested outings and they loved it. The fact that it was completely artificial was fine with them. You’ve had problems with them because they cannot be upfront, recognize their own emotions, deal with reality. So forget it. My own folks pretty much abandoned me completely once they found out they weren’t in the will. So your take on family isn’t wrong. You just have to live with it.

(Family cartoon via huffingtonpost.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 18

2011-12-23T11:00:00.002-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Elier Reyes about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

For more information on Elier Reyes, please visit: www.elierreyes.com
& facebook.com/elisacousticromance

Worst Ad of the Week & Fashion Talk

2011-12-22T11:30:00.002-05:00

Hello darlings - How to Be Gay in the 21st Century was included in Roberto Friedman's 2011 list of books he recommends for the year, in his annual article for The Bay Area Reporter! Please click here for the wonderful review of my book.
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I am starting a new little feature this week called Worst Ad of the Week. The picture above is from a Marc Jacobs ad campaign of someone named Cerith Wynn Evans and it is very mysterious. Would anyone want to wear this jacket after seeing it on him? With just that little hint of sexual parts? I don't think so...

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But now, for more serious talk about fashion. I think the navy peacoat with all its four-square buttons is looking really good. Somehow it makes men and women alike look snappy and lots of designers and ready-to-wear are doing it this season. If you need a new warm coat, go for it.

Here's another red look. You have to have the gumption to wear this look but it's got it. Neat, strong and eye-catching. Of course this is by Dior so you better have lots of moola too.

And lastly, Here is Jil Sander's new see through clear plastic raincoat. I think this is great. Of course, you may want to wear something under it, which this model is not doing. Gotta hand it to the magazine for giving us a full frontal in their fashion pages. I haven't seen that before.

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Dear David,
I am a guy whose most fetching feature is my legs. But winter is here and I live in a city. Any suggestions?
~Leggy

Dear Leggy,
1. Go to the gym a lot
2. Take some swimming classes
3. Try introducing tights and shorts with a business top. Would your job allow this?
4. Move to Miami Beach. We wear shorts all year round here. And we would welcome you.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Jack Wilshere

2011-12-21T11:00:00.001-05:00

I ran across Jack Wilshere, who plays what we American's call soccer and the English call football for the Arsenal team in the United Kingdom. In a magazine supplement dedicated to this much-loved but not too fortunate team. Mr. Wilshere seems rather young and unbattered for a sports hero, but he sure is a honey and this week's Handsomest Man in the World.

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Dear David,
I hate having a sex problem as Christmas is upon us, but I am having trouble masturbating as I get older. Not that I am not up and willing but my imagination just isn't responding to porn magazines and movies. What, what, what?
~What?

Dear What,
You know what I think. You have just been depending too much on imaginary playmates. Shift your imagination to real people with whom you have had real sex, which I'm assuming you have had. Try conjuring up these memories. I'll bet it will work. And where are those guys anyway. Why not give them a call?

Never Wants to "Top"

2011-12-20T11:00:00.000-05:00

Dear Davidina,
My partner never wants to "top." He says it hurts. Honest. Any suggestions?
~Perfectly Happy but Perplexed

Dear Perplexedina,
Interesting, I have never had this complaint before. I am assuming that this is in no way your fault. May I suggest oodles and oodles of lubricant. I would ask him exactly what hurts? If he really just doesn't want to do it...maybe it is strap-on time.

Baffled by Teen Bullys

2011-12-19T10:41:00.003-05:00

Dear David,
I know you have a lot of confidence in younger people and feel they pay little attention to differences like gayness. Yet we are having these teen suicides and gay-bullying in high schools. How do you explain that?
~Baffled

Dear Baffled,
Here's my stand. Men who gay-bash do it because they have homosexual feelings that they are afraid of. From their guilt they punish others rather than themselves. In my experience really heterosexual men have no negative feelings about gay men. I have half a dozen non-gay men as good friends whom I think feel more comfortable discussing really personal things with me than other heterosexual male friends.

I just keep saying it, "If you bully gays it's because you are gay yourself." If this idea can be promulgated enough it ought to make sense to teenagers. This is a 21st century point of view. Keep saying it.

(Photo via safenetwork.org)

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In need of last minute holiday gifts? There's How to be Gay in the 21st Century, Escort, and my two new novels Love in the Loire and I Don't Kiss. Please click here for more information!

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 17

2011-12-16T11:30:00.001-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Oliver Davis about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Ballet, Fashion & Art

2011-12-15T11:00:00.005-05:00

Dear David,
Have you found that your ballet background has helped you with your health and your gait?
~Interested

Dear Interested,
Yes, in fact I think it has been crucial. I have gone to ballet class almost all of my adult life and still do. I look in the mirror at the Miami City Ballet school and ask myself if there is anyone else on the planet still going to class as their 82nd birthday approaches. Certainly not with my legs.

I think your muscles stay in shape if you don't let them get out of shape. I think technically I dance as well as I ever did but probably don't have the stamina. I love moving to music and it's much easier doing an hour and a half in class than the gym. I go to the gym twice a week with a trainer and try to go to ballet class twice a week, too. A good part of it is posture also. As a dancer you have to stand up. I see older people slumping and I want to slap them on the back and say "Stand the f-k up!" I don't think they are aware that they are sinking. Yes, ballet makes you stand up and step out. Dancers usually love to ripe old ages.

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Our fashion hit of the week is Walter van Berendonck, the Belgian designer. Here are two spreads of his clothes. I think he is the only designer for men who is actually doing anything different and new. This may be where men's fashion is going. It's bright and different and it surely doesn't look girly.
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(Peter Hammar | Looking Thru My Kaleidoscope Studio wall installation, 2011 | 20' x 9')

It's almost the holidays and I have some gift ideas! You should go see the Swedish artist Peter Hammar's work at the ArtCenter South Florida at 800 Lincoln Road if you live on the beach. Great gifts if you want to spend a little money or a lot. His work is really new and interesting. Very handsome, too.

For more information please visit: www.peterhammar.com

Also, don't you kids think it would be a swell idea to buy one of of my books or more for holiday gifts? There's How to be Gay in the 21st Century, Escort, and my two new novels Love in the Loire and I Don't Kiss. Please Click here for more information!

Handsomest Man in the World & Love Advice

2011-12-14T11:00:00.005-05:00

Handsomest Man in the world this week is Robert Downey, Jr. He was on the cover of a European men's magazine and he's got it. I should add that in my youth I lived near Sheridan Square in New York's Greenwich Village. His father Robert Downey was a waiter at the Pam-Pam eatery there and he was really good looking. We went to eat there late after the bars closed and there he was. I had such a crush on him. This was before his underground films and later fame. Certainly before Robert, Jr. was born. Are there really only 40 people in the world and the rest are walk-ons?

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Dear David,
Great article in the Huffington Post! As a young gay man it was helpful to gain an historical perspective on homosexuality in the US. And I can't believe you were alive in the 1930s. You look so young!

Here's my situation:
The last significant relationship I was in—my first—was intense and liberating. It ended suddenly, with me in tears. Afterward, I had a lot of unfulfilling sleepovers with older men. Now that I'm dating people my age, I'm finding it hard to find a potential lover. What will happen is I'll go on a date with someone I'm curious in and we'll small talk the entire time. Pretty soon I'll lose interest in the guy simply because the conversation is boring. I'm looking to spice up my romantic life and wondering if dating is the way to do it. Any advice?
~Newly-gay-in-the-21st-Century

Dear Newly Gay,
I think you're fine. You just need to ask those boring conversationalists some startling questions. Recently talking to my friends I find they seem reluctant to ask those to-the-point questions like "What do you like to do sexually?" You need to dig below that level of where they went to school, what movies they have seen recently, etc. Just think about what you would really like to know about them and ask. Suddenly the real person is there.

Thanks for the mention of my being on Huffington Post. We had almost a thousand hits on my blog within the first two days of the article. Please bookmark my blog and tell your friends!

Does Hugh Jackman have a gay brother?

2011-12-13T11:00:00.006-05:00

(Hugh Jackman photo via babble.com)

Dear David,
I came across your blog via your Huffington Post article, and am enjoying it immensely. You're very funny.

May I be honest? I moved to LA last year from Houston, and am considered very good looking (I think it's my hair), smart, funny, creative, and thoughtful, yet I can't GIVE IT AWAY. Well, not exactly, but that's pretty darn close to being accurate. I'm told people are intimidated by my self-awareness, and the other things I already humbly mentioned. What advice might you give me if I wanted to put myself into situations where other smart, confident, thoughtful, and what the heck, handsome men (in their 40's, like me) might gather?
~Does Hugh Jackman have a gay brother?

Dear Hugh Jackman's gay brother,
Maybe you are his twin if the rumors are correct. Anyway, you need to place yourself in situations where you are not there looking for somebody. Where someone has a chance to realize that you are smart and funny as well as attractive. I highly recommend some adult education classes where you are going regularly and someone can get to know you.

As a gay man you may be drawn to ceramics or painting. I myself would recommend a language class, carpentry or plumbing. I will bet there are some great guys there. And in the 21st century all those old barriers about being gay or non-gay are falling away. Go get 'em! And please, report back. I want some front-line news!

How Do I Get Over "The One" ?

2011-12-12T11:00:00.017-05:00

Dear David,
How do I get over someone whom I thought was "the one"?
~Fallen

Dear Fallen,
I have been a Zen student for quite a few years, meditating daily, and this is, as you know, a practice not a religion. There is no dogma and no instruction. You just have to learn from yourself. I believe that deep in our subconcious we know a lot, maybe everything. It's just hard to get through to it, or maybe better, to let it happen.

I studied under one abbot for a long time and the only thing he ever said to me as a guide was, "Don't be so sure what you want is what you should have." I think we all have destinies and we must avoid getting off at the wrong station. Maybe that "special one" was the wrong station.

And on a more superficial level, one isn't gone forever until they are dead. He/she may very well be back. I still get calls in the night and they always ask "How do you look?" I hope I have given you something to be hopeful about.

(Photo by Danica Faye)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 16

2011-12-08T11:00:00.039-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Gama about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!
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Feeling Older & Unattractive

2011-12-08T11:00:00.003-05:00

Dear David,
I feel older and unattractive. Que Pasa?
~The Old Boot

Dear Old Boot,
I love your name. I am sure that you are funny enough to attract lots of people. Anyway, how about the sun flares? They are huge and affect the electricity on the earth as well as your mood. It's true. I am not big on "woo-woo stuff" but this seems to be the case. So maybe you are just suffering from "sun-flaritus."

Go to the gym. Get a haircut. Start using moisturizer. I have a feeling that Mr. Right is hovering just over the horizon. Let me know.

(Photo of David Leddick by David Vance for the book "How to Be Gay in the 21st Century")
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Fashion for today:
I am seeing a lot of all red outfits. I am not going to wear this but obviously it's something to think about. The first 2 photos are of the model Jared Neff. Check the hair. Very in right now:

Handsomest Man in the World & Dating Advice

2011-12-07T11:00:00.004-05:00

Are you old enough to know this is the day that the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor and pulled the United Staes into World War II? I remember it and the pictures in Life Magazine. My father died one month later. Those days were a mess.
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Dear David,
I am a straight guy and have been checking out your blog because a couple of my gay friends told me it was interesting - and it is. Here's my problem. I am in my thirties, have a good job, have not been married before but would like to get married and have a family. At a recent party a married woman friend introduced me to two young women she thought I would find interesting. One I did. The other less so. The second one, however, liked me and has been emailing me everyday suggesting we meet for coffee and telling me all about her life. It turns out she lives with her parents and has two small children, being recently divorced. I don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I communicate that I am not interested?
~Baffled

Dear Baffled,
You seem to be a nice guy and evidently a good catch. Here is what I suggest. Call this lady and make a lunch date at an ok resteraunt. There you can sit down, get to know each other better, maybe start becoming friends or maybe not, but make it clear you are interested in someone else. Whether this is true or not. This won't damage her ego and will let her continue with her own life without feeling rejected.
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Handsomest Man in the World ~ I want more Dominic Cooper, don't you? Here you go!

(Photos of Dominic Cooper from Interview Magazine)

Melancholia the movie & sex advice

2011-12-06T11:00:00.011-05:00
Just to remind you again, I was on Huffington-Post last Wednesday! I’d like very much to have your reaction. Let me know. You can condemn me if you like. There’s no such thing as bad publicity. Thank you! Please click here for the article.
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Have you seen the movie "Melancholia?" You should see it. The advertising kind of avoids the central theme that a stray planet is about to intersect with the earth. Will it? Won't it? Very interesting because of the music (a Beethoven great) the shooting with very long takes. Overheads in the fog. Everything that is all the current quick cuts, fast paced contemporary movies are not. It has a very heavy foreboding feeling - I think you could use a little foreboding. You are avoiding thinking about a lot of things right now. I will never understand Kirsten Dunst as a movie star, of course. I think she got the part because to her credit she has excellent boobs.
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Dear David,
I am an older woman who reads your blog because so much of it is for everyone. My question: I am with someone with whom I have had a good and satisfying life except now sex is gone and will not be coming back. I miss it. Please tell me what I should do.
~Still Hot

Dear Madame Still Hot,
More power to you. I think we have all grown up to accept that we can have sex with one person while being in love with another. Keep your antenna up and keep looking good. Some guy, much younger I will guess, is going to want you. And you should say yes. Just rendezvous in motels/cheap hotels and do it. Tell him right off you are not in love with him. Except perhaps for his body. And keep it to yourself. And don't do something deliberately so you get caught and then can dump your guilt on someone else. You are guilty of anything except being human.

Art Basel Miami Beach & Love Advice

2011-12-05T11:00:00.002-05:00

(Luis Selem ~ Evocacion primigenia)

Here it is, another week starting. Art Basel Miami Beach just finished yesterday and it was a "hog rassle" as they say in Michigan. Zillions of people descend on Miami Beach and also Miami now, traffic is bumper to bumper, restaurants are jammed, many parties every night. I went out four nights in a row. The parties are largely hundreds of people who don't know each other jammed together promoting something that are not quite sure of. Lots and lots of well put together, good-looking women.

If you are in the Miami are you should check out the Luis Selem show at the Galeria del Sol in Miami Beach. I love his work. The gallery is a 1628 Meridian just south of Lincoln Road down towards the Alton Road end. Check it out. Very good!
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Dear David,
I was very much involved with another man about ten years ago. It was an important relationship that ended after about two years. We have just reconnected and aren't quite sure why we broke up then. Perhaps it wasn't all it could have been sexually and that was my fault. I've gotten over some of my hang ups of that time.

I can't help feeling we have wasted many years when we could have been happy together. He doesn't feel that way. What do you think?
~Time Wasted

Dear Time Wasted,
How about destiny?! My feeling is that you both were out there learning, growing, changing. All things you needed to do before you were ready for some real commitment. Go for it. This sound like this is it.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 15

2011-12-02T10:30:00.000-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Anthony about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Fashion Talk - sequin hoodies and more

2011-12-01T11:00:00.002-05:00
Now listen, I think men's fashion is intrinsically boring as it hasn't really changed much since 1820. That's when knee britches went out and the dark suit and tie with white shirt came in. And viola! If you came from outerspace the way men looked then and looked now would be very similar. So today we will talk about the current nuances and then I will be wilder in the future:

1. I think the bulky sweater could be replacing the jacket so this beige look with corduroy pants and a slunk over the shoulders raincoast is all the same stuff. But a tee-shirt instead of a shirt and the overall colors could be really good without looking girly this winter.

2. This camel blazer looks really good. The model is Garrett Neff who suddenly looks ten years younger. And cute. Where he used to be muscly and sullen. Wha' happened?

3. Here's the little navy blazer on a guy with tattoos and a beard. It's from Brooks Brothers. I'm surprised!

4. This sweater and white pants without a belt looking really good and not too extreme. Men's pants seem to be going up waistline speaking. And pleats are returning. I like this. Tom Ford, of course.

5. Mr. Ford has a new men's cologne called Grey Vetiver. I cannot speak for it but his look in the ad is excellent if you are going to get really dressed up. Grey always makes you look good. I don't know why. Much better than brown on most people.

6. Just want to point out this sequin hoodie by Osklen. If you've got the guts this is great.

7. Very beautiful new model, the girl Heloise Guerin. The guy is ok too!

I am in the Huffington Post today!

2011-11-30T11:00:00.001-05:00
I am in the Huffington Post today! Please click here to read my article!

(Photo still from Movie My Week with Marilyn)
I saw the movie My Week with Marilyn a couple of nights ago and Michelle Williams does capture something. Overall the movie is quite grown-up and creates a lot of very individual people. Only Kenneth Branagh shouldn't have been in it - he looks like a side of beef. Laurence Olivier was very handsome.

(Photo still from Movie My Week with Marilyn)
However, what I really want to say is that Handsomest Man in the World today is definitely Dominic Cooper. He plays Milton Greene, the photographer in the movie. A small role which he handles very well, but Ye Gods, that guy smolders. He is so hot. He needs some big movie role of the kind that Cary Grant played. I never think that movie people are really sexy but Dominic Cooper has got it. Yikes!
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Dear David,
This is a stupid question but when you get into bed knowing you are going to have sex are you always naked?
~Nude or Not

Dear Nude or Not,
This is actually a very good question. Never am I completely nude. No, I say, no. They need to tear something off, or struggle to get it here or there - you know? I once had a pair of pajamas (years ago) that when I got up in the morning was all over the bedroom in little pieces. I called the office and told them I would not be in that day...

Is it Hot in Here or is it Just Me?

2011-11-29T10:30:00.003-05:00

Hey! I am going to be on the Huffington Post blog tomorrow. They asked me to write an article about how I came to write "How to Be Gay in the 21st Century." Of course, I feel that I am not worthy, but you know how I love publicity! Click here for the link and please bookmark the page and visit tomorrow. My PR guy and blog mistress tell me that this is really important, so please check it out and comment, respond, repost on twitter and facebook, do whatever comes to mind, please!

I am starting work on a new book Hitting 70 Doing 100 and my new novel for Spring has gone to the printer Meaningless Hugs, Meaningless Kisses about being gay over 70. Some people want me to write my memoirs. I don't know. But I have a great title, Is it Hot in Here or is it Just Me? I think my writing is just like my acting. I am not very talented but I get it done and people like it. So I plunge forward. Sorry to write so much about myself but I guess it is my blog.

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Dear David,
Is it inevitable in every relationship that the sex becomes more routine and dwindles away?
~Dwindling

Dear Dwindling,
There is a song title there somewhere...Dwindling While You Cuddle Near Me. No my darling, no, no, no. You have heard this from me many times, but I was with someone for thirty years and I never didn't feel like sleeping with him. Did I push his buttons the same way? I think not but I always held his interest.

The thing with men is that you have to make them want to own you. They should not want anyone else to have you. As I say in my book and in my new show based on the book - You have to look good and always be fun to be with. What is crucial is that you have a life separate from him. Your job, your music, your writing, your something that doesn't include him and you like it a lot. I saw the movie My Week with Marilyn last night and was reminded of her song, After You Get What You Want You Don't Want It. I don't care if you've been married thirty years, they should always feel somewhere you are having a good time without them. My quote, "Always leave as though you are going somewhere more interesting." Then they want to hold onto you sexually.

Standing On Ceremony: The Gay Marriage Plays

2011-11-28T10:30:00.001-05:00

Listen, if you are around New York you should go see "Standing on Ceremony: The Gay Marriage Plays" Nine short plays by some famous (Paul Rudnick, Neil LaBute) and less famous writers and really funny. Go on. You owe yourself some fun!
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Dear David,
My partner's penis veers off to the left when it is erect and that sort of bothers me. Can anything be done about this?
~Penis Perplexed

Dear Penis Perplexed,
Can anything be done about you? It's not how it looks. It's how it feels. Turn out the lights. Or shut your eyes. You are something!

Come On Out! with David Leddick Episode 14

2011-11-25T11:00:00.001-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I bring back my pal Heriberto about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Happy Thanksgiving & Fall Fashion Advice

2011-11-24T11:00:00.003-05:00

Happy Thanksgiving you turkeys! You know, I never had a turkey when I was young. My mother disliked it. We always had chicken. People ate a lot of different stuff. The turkey industry had not kicked in yet. We didn't have a lot of marshmellows in things either. I do remember my relatives doing a lot of stuff with jello with shredded carrots in it. That was the salad. And the cranberry sauce. Did anyone ever like that? A holiday devoted to eating is not for me. As I get older I like the national holidays less and less. Lots of people trying to express feelings they don't have. The only holiday I like is Valentine's day. I can always feel love.
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Here's fashion input for Fall, kids:

I want to speak up for the J.Crew catalog. Those people are on top of it fashion wise and the prices are right. Here's a great man's jacket - the right shape, well-tailored, English wool, fully lined and $298. I want to buy it and I live in Miami Beach and would never wear it.

Also, if you need an overcoat. The Mayfair topcoat looks great. More expensive at $428 but it's exactly right: You won't need another one for a long time. I think the navy blue is best. No, I am not being paid by J. Crew to say all of this. Their women's and children's stuff is very on, also, in my opinion. Kind of makes you want to be a girl. Well, that and other things.

This very expensive Armani overcoat has the same look but longer. I have loved this look in the past.

The expensive T-shirt under a jacket I think looks great and is very modern. Good-bye dress shirt. (Hugo Boss)

Darlings, this is really the look if you can handle it. Little jacket. Big pants. Excellent hair.

Thoughts On: Occupy Protesting, Handsomest Man in the World & Brazil

2011-11-23T11:00:00.011-05:00

I just wanted to say a few words about all the "Occupy" activities that are going on across the country. You don't have to be Einstein to know that sending the police in to throw everyone out is the dumbest thing you could do. As they just did in New York down on Wall Street. Obviously more and more young people will be galvanized to rush right back in. Which they did.

And some not so young people. I'm going over to the "Occupy" people here in Miami to check them out. This is how revolutions start. People are unhappy. A few start demonstrating and others join in. It happened in the 1930's. It happened in the 1960's. We're due. And the people who are powerful see to have learned nothing. That is what amazes me. They can't be that stupid. As Bette Davis said so tellingly in "All About Eve" - "fasten your seat belts, we're in for a bumpy ride."

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Yes, It's Handsomest Man in the World Day. I have seen this ad a number of times and keep coming back to look at the guy in the turquoise sweater. That's a great face.

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Dear David,
I know you were just in Brazil in Sao Paulo. What do you think?
~I Am Curious

Dear I am Curious,
Scary and interesting. A city of 20 million. When you fly over it you can't really believe what you're seeing. In a huge valley full of low hills. Skyscrapers in the valleys. Trees and lower buildings on the hills. No real downtown. All sort of different neighborhoods. And few people have a second language. Portuguese, that's it. We better get it into our heads that this is a country larger than the US. Like this country, some see no reason to learn another language. In conversation, people say they have no wish to leave Brazil. Some similarities to the US and very rich in money, oil, jewels, gold, you name it. Brace yourself.

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Thoughts on the Sandusky Penn State Scandal

2011-11-22T11:00:00.005-05:00

(photo via commons.wikimedia.org)

The Coach Sandusky scandal at Penn State. Oceans of newspaper reporting and TV stuff. And quite obviously football and masculinity were far more important than those kids. I played all the sports in high school long ago and it was no surprise to me. All that horsing around in the shower is for one reason only.

Reading all this coverage I immediately thought, "Do they think this was only happening at Penn State? Why aren't they checking what's happening/happened at other colleges? And suddenly Syracuse University has a coach, Mr. Fine, a longtime friend of their head coach, being turned in. My guess is that there's going to be a lot more young guys stepping up to tell about having to "put out" to be given attention in the sports world. We all know that's what goes on in Hollywood and Broadway. Why should the sports world be any different? It's the homosexuality thing that gets the public. Our big sports heroes fooling around with another guy? Ooh, Ooh, Ooh!
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Dear Diva-David,
What gives with the porn industry, gay and straight, becoming such a major think in our country? I like porn from time to time but people seem to be watching it all the time on line. Doing it isn't the same thing as looking at it.
~Porn-fed Up

Dear Porn-fed Up,
What do you mean Diva-David? What did I ever do to you? I'm just as plain as an old boot when you get to know me. As for those porniacs. It's all this electronic stuff. Research shows that more people prefer messaging to speaking. Nobody wants to run the risk of actually being judged. They just want to send a lot of baloney about themselves out to people they call "friends" whom they've never met and then watch people doing what they are too timid to do. A big part of this country is heading into the closet. Please don't go in there.

J. Edgar Movie Review

2011-11-21T11:00:00.011-05:00

(Photo by Keith Bernstein – © 2011 Warner Bros. Entertainment Inc.)

Last night I saw "J. Edgar", the new movie about J. Edgar Hoover starring Leonardo DiCaprio, directed by Clint Eastwood. Although beautifully filmed with great sets, costumes and makeup I was baffled at their presentation of Hoover, head of the F.B.I. for many years. In the the gay world he was known to be homosexual with a lover who worked with him and often getting into drag. The adage, "When you have a secret life the only one it's a secret to is you" could never have been truer. And this was years ago.

The movie presents him as a man who loved another man but probably never acted upon it, the movie even has the man he loved discover his nude body in death and cover it up with a bedspread as though he had never seen it before. Come on.

And only upon his mother's death does Hoover put on her necklace and dress and fall on the floor sobbing. Really. The whole thing is so overly dramatic and to a gay man the sensibility is ridiculous. I am sure the two of them were just a rowdy old pair of queens getting into bad drag at even worse parties. I saw photographs of him in a wig and a dress decades ago. So why all this delicacy? A very long, slow, dark movie about a really awful guy who blackmailed everybody and was quite crazy. DiCaprio is very sensitive in the role but I don't think dreadful, bossy old J. Edgar was much like that. And be so nervous about "Was he gay?", "Did he do drag?" It seemed dated. I left the theater wondering why they even made this movie.

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(Photographer: Ron Nickel. Collection: Design Pics. Royalty Free)

Dear David,
I follow your blog even though I am a woman. I find a lot of what you say interesting and relevant. I was in a relationship for seven years. We were engaged to be married. Then it all fell apart. Now a lot of men find me attractive and I am involved in a number of romances at the same time. Am I not behaving the way you think I should?
~Popular Gal

Dear Popular Gal,
You go get 'em, gal! If you were the masculine side of the fallen apart relationship everyone would be admiring you. So do I.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 13

2011-11-18T11:00:00.002-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I interview my pal Heriberto about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Fashion Talk - Is this the new look? I hope not.

2011-11-17T11:00:00.011-05:00
My fashion thoughts this week are about your hair:

1. Is this the new look? I hope not. Your haircut or hairdo should be designed to make you look better. I don’t think this does so.

2. I have never been a fan of dreadlocks but I saw this and thought it looked really good. Really romantic. If you have the hair to do this I would certainly consider it.

3. I am beginning to see a lot of this slicked down side-part and I like it. I think this neo-1930’s look tends to make any man better-looking. And isn’t this what you have in mind? I am even doing it myself.
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Dear David,
I live in Fort Lauderdale and the other day I stopped into a cafe for a cup of coffee and there was my ex. We were lovers about a decade ago. He left town when we broke up. He was in Fort Lauderdale for a week visiting and clearly had no plan to call me or see me, though he knew exactly where I was.

Later I felt very upset and rejected. He was the only man I have been really involved with. I learned alot and changed alot because of him. Yet evidently I meant very little to him. Was I overreacting? I am still upset.
~A Fool for Love

Dear Foolish Lover,
We can get a great deal from a romance where you are the lover and the other person is the loved one. Just congratulate yourself for having really lived and felt and loved and grown when you were with him. He’s the loser. In lot’s of ways.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Model Named Leebo

2011-11-16T11:00:00.005-05:00

I have a strange Handsomest Man in the World today. A model named Leebo in bizarre clothes and good abs. He’s got something. Sort of like James Franco, is this really a star? Tons of press but I am not aware of a really important film or stage role. Am I wrong? Please let me know if you know.
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Dear David,
I am interested in a South American man with whom I had a kind of whirlwind romance a few months ago. We met, we crashed into each other’s arms, we had what might have been the best sex I ever had, and then it has drastically slowed down. He is always very busy with real life responsibilities (I believe it isn’t other men) and then when we meet we tussle and rustle somewhat, I feel he is aroused in a big way then he just wants to cuddle. What’s going on here? What would you do?
~Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered

Dear Triple B,
What immediately comes to my mind is that he is having flare-ups of herpes or something like that and doesn’t want to infect you. It’s that or he really isn’t interested in having your relationship go further. I think you can have a talk. Don’t be shy. Ask him:

1. Do you have herpes and don’t want to have sex? You can get it under control.
2. Are you not seriously interested in me?
3. Are you intimidated by the idea of having a real relationship with another man?

If you are really feeling something for this guy this is not an unreasonable conversation to have.

Rekindle a Former Flame?

2011-11-15T11:00:00.001-05:00
Dear David,
I have just broken off with my lover of seven years who wants more sexual freedom. I have been seeing a former lover of some fifteen years ago who has a little son of two. I often babysit his son and I have come to love this little boy a lot and very recently my ex and I are considering being together again. I am not quite sure who I love here. What’s you take on this?
~Second Time

Dear Second Time,
I don’t want to bring any kind of formula thinking to this problem because there’s a child involved. Normally I would say it didn’t work once it probably won’t work twice. But I could be wrong.

However I kind of feel that perhaps you are too young fora relationship that is basically about family. Am I wrong here? I think any lasting real relationship has to be based on a great romance. Otherwise it’s a roommate with a little sex thrown in. I guess overall I would say give it a try but don’t get overly upset if what didn’t work in the past doesn’t work now.

Fine Artist In Search of Advice

2011-11-14T10:00:00.001-05:00

(Paul Cadmus | The Bath | 1951)

Dear David,
I’m an up-and-coming fine artist. I paint and draw the nude. There is nothing more un attractive than the lifestyle of an artist who is not also financially successful. The art world seems a bit daunting and hard to understand at first glance. Would you have any advice for me for success in this mileu?
~Little Picasso

Dear Picasso Jr.,
Here’s what I think. The art world has become a huge market catering to the new super-wealthy wanting to show of their wealth and pay millions for half a cow in a tank of formaldehyde. This isn’t going to last like a Da Vinci or Michelangelo work from the Renaissance. It’s interesting, all the very high paid painters of the 19th century are now forgotten and Van Gogh is famous, who only sold one painting in his lifetime and that was to his brother.

I think art is to make you feel something, not to be thought about. Contemporary art is very disposable. You think about it. You talk about it. You forget it. You are in the tradition of artists who want you to feel. The last school of this kind of artist were the Magic Realists, who in the 1930’s and 1940’s included Paul Cadmus, Jared French, George Tooker, Bernard Perlin and some others. Only Bernard Perlin is still alive. George Tooker just died and was never lost to sight. He always had buyers and sold for good prices. You are a part of a reawakening to this kind of art which is going on right now. If you do the nude it has to have some personal view as to why the nude is beautiful and meaningful. Your own personal magic has to be brought to it. Think about this. When you have maybe 15 or 20 paintings you like then I would go online and find galleries outside of New York, like Minnealpolis, Atlanta, Dallas.

I think your timing is perfect. Representational art is on its way back. Now you must find your own thing so it is representational art for the 21st century. Good luck and keep in touch.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 12

2011-11-11T11:00:00.001-05:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I interview my pal Ewell about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Brazilian Suit Ad

2011-11-09T14:00:00.001-05:00

This is the day of the week when we present the Handsomest Man in the World. How's this guy? I am just back from Sao Paulo, Brazil and this is a suit ad from a local magazine. Do you think this is how men are going to start showing up for business meetings? One can only hope.

Dating on Tight Schedule

2011-11-08T11:00:00.005-05:00
Dear David,
I have just met someone with whom I really click. However we both have such tight schedules that we can really only meet about twice a week for an hour or so. We are having great sex rendezvous but little else. Can this go anywhere?
~Rex Rendezvous

Dear Double R.,
This is probably a love affair that is going to last for years and years if you stay on this schedule. I am not sure why your shcdeules are so tight and if you each have other meaningful others that are being left out of these bi-weekly flings. At any rate, I think this sounds great. If this becomes ever more important you will find those schedules opening up I am sure. In the meantime, welcome the fact that you are not going to get bored with each other any time soon.

Too Many Excuses...

2011-11-07T11:00:00.038-05:00
Dear David,
I am very attracted to my partner and I enjoy his company a lot but the sex is often unfulfilling. After he has an orgasm the sex is pretty much finished. With some coaxing, I get to finish but that isn't very sexy. My sexual appetite is nearly insatiable, especially with this partner, but there is always an excuse why we can't do it. He's afraid to damage his bum, he gets a fever after sex, he doesn't want to become a sex addict, etc. Also, he always wants me to be the one to initiate sex and affection but often when I try I'm pushed away. He claims things will get better and that he as trust issues. Things have been getting better as time goes by but I need help deciding if I should hang in there.
~Trust Worthy

Dear Trust Worthy,
I think your partner has reluctancies about sex, no matter who he has a relationship with. Some people have worries about their health, their bodies, their guilts, who knows? Overall I would say that this is someone who will always be hesitant about sex. They are never going to throw themselves into it wholeheartedly. Unless, of course, they are less crazy about you than you are about them. If you are really feeling very intimate with this guy and want to build on it, go for it. If not and you don't really feel like a teammate, I think I would set both of you free to look for better sexual match-ups.

Cab in Sao Paulo ~ David's Gay Dish ~ Video

2011-11-04T11:00:00.002-04:00

Here I am in a cab in crazy Sao Paulo, Brasil!

Black Diamonds Are a Girls Best Friend

2011-11-03T11:00:00.026-04:00
Here we are on Fashion Day. Because I live in Miami Beach and flee to Uruguay during the brief weeks we call winter here I am never over the cold. So my advice tends to be about looking good more than keeping warm. But I think that’s a good goal, don’t you?

Anyway, here’s a couple of looks for you. I think you can wear a light colored suit in coldish weather. And I think wearing it over a T-shirt and with a scarf makes sense. I am not very pro-scarf, but filling in your neckline and keeping a bit warmer makes sense. This is a very good look. You do not have to take the mattress with you, although it might come in handy.

Also the longish shorts and striped T-shirt with a leather jacket and bag looks good. I am very opposed to leather jackets as I think people automatically assume you are into S&M. But here it works. Maybe because yachting and sadomasochism do NOT go together very much.

For the ladies: Turquoise. I think a big bulky sweater, coordinated color skirt that covers you up fairly well and sensible boots makes for a really excellent winter look. But the color needs to be dramatic. A big coat over it and you’re set. Just sexy enough.

Onto women’s jewelry: David Yurman, the New Tiffany, has a black diamond leopard bracelet very much like the one Cartier does. Gorgeous and expensive. Designed by Fawaz Gruosi and the jeweler is De Grisogno. This is all way out there stuff, but we can dream can’t we?

And everyone must have the new Slap-On watch in every color imaginable. I’m getting them here Miami Beach and showering them upon everyone I know. If you want one let me know.

Here's just one little picture extra from Sao Paulo, Brazil, from whence I have just come. Yes, the men do look like this there. Kiss me, you fool!

Handsomest Man in the World & Dating Advice

2011-11-02T11:00:00.014-04:00

Handsomest Man in the World! I found this in a French gay magazine. I can’t believe he’s French. The ad is for Inderwear and they found a hottie for us. I have no idea who he is or where he is but he exists my dears, he exists. Dream on.
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Dear David,
How do you feel about my having a number of sex buddies, sex partners, men I date, whatever? I’m beginning to think that this completely unromantic kind of sex life is going to change me and I will not even be interested in romance eventually. Que pasa?
~Too Casual

Dear Too Casual,
I don’t think you are too casual. I think you are probably quite attractive and a lot of people want to go to bed with you and you are letting it happen. For myself, I don’t like to think of sex as something like tennis. That you just go out there and knock the ball around a couple times a week. I did that when I was in my teens (please, don’t tell my mother) and by the time I was twenty that period was over. You may just be doing a teen thing later. But to get the most out of sex, it shouldn’t be a sport but involved in a specific person. What is that old song? “He may be good f-ing but he’s no f-ing good.” So be it. Don’t worry about who he is. It should be someone that really presses all the buttons emotionally. Then you can reassure yourself that you have really lived.

Marriage. Children. No Sex Life.

2011-11-01T11:00:00.003-04:00

Dear D. G. D.,
I am legally married to another man and we have two children. I love them all very much. But I don’t feel like having sex with my partner very often anymore. This bothers me. The whole reason I got into this in the first place was that I was crazy about him. Now what?
~Blaming Myself

Dear Blaming Yourself,
I love your title for me. D. G. D. Like Mother God Damn in the musical “South Pacific”. David God Damn. Anyway, about your sex life. Welcome to the world of heterosexuality. Romance kind of slides out the window once the kids can hear you in the night.

First of all, even though you have a nice domestic life, schedule some time away from the kids. Even if it means hiring a babysitter for a couple of hours and going to McDonald’s by yourselves where you can talk about sex. What haven’t you done yet you’d like to try? I think everyone is loaded with sex to the end of their lives. They just lose track of it in the bourgeois world where everything is about the neighbors, school, income, real estate. Don’t forget who you used to be and what you wanted to do sexually. You can do it. He’s right there in bed with you. How about a vacations without the kids? At least a weekend. I promise you, you must not lose track of your sexuality. I have written this before but the architect Buckminster Fuller said in an interview “As you get older you must not underestimate the importance of pornography.” You could buy some of my books. That could get you going.

(Photo via istockphoto.com)

Feeling Guilty About Being Gay

2011-10-31T11:00:00.003-04:00

Dear David of the Gay Dish,
To be short and sweet about it - I was brought up in a very religious home and I cannot shake the feeling that being gay is being bad. I always feel guilty about it and it seems to wreck my relationships with other men. What do you think about this?
~Guilty as Hell

Dear G. H.,
I’m not going to go into all that folderol about homosexuality being genetic, etc. We all know that. Here’s my question to you. Is you mother still living? You may think your guilty feelings are religious but I’ll bet they’re maternal. In my experience even big names and famous people remain closeted not because of their careers but because of their mother. I just closed in my musical based on my book “How to Be Gay in the 21st Century.” I have a song about parents and guilt in the show. This guilt stuff has to do with your parents embarassment, not yours. I don’t wish your mother gone, but the moment she does your guilt will go with her is what I think.

(Photo of David Leddick by David Vance for book "How to be Gay in the 21st Century")

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 11 (Part 1)

2011-10-28T12:30:00.001-04:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I interview Ray Sullivan about his personal coming out story. This is Part 1, stay tuned next week for Part 2 of the interview. Enjoy!

Happy Halloween!

Fashion & Mother Advice

2011-10-27T11:00:00.015-04:00
Our fashion day is a bit of this and that today:

How about this men's look? Is it too girly? I don't think so. I think the kind of floppy pants, T-shirt and short simple jacket is just taking the basic elements of what a lot of men are wearing and making them a little dressier. The pop-eyed guy wearing it is John Skelton who has a trendy store in London called LN-CC.

I'm not sure wear I stand on big bags. They are definitely over for women but I think for men they make sense. You have those gym clothes, lots of documents and stuff all the time. This is a sort of expensive one from Dunhill but it will last forever.

And finally, my favorite jeweler David Yurman has just branched out into really high end jewels. Here's a new emerald bracelet he has just done that I think is great. I won't mention the price. None of us can afford it. But he makes many things you can afford. Check him out...

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Dear David,
This is a question about my mother. As she ages she complains more and more that I do not pay enough attention to her. Tell me what to do. The more she complains the less I want to talk to her.
~The Hapless Child

Dear Hapless,
Buy her things. Most problems go away when you throw money at them, Buy her a cashmere pullover. A brooch. A jacket. Things she will not thing of buying herself. She can brag to her friends how you are keeping her stylish. This works.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Vittorio Grigolo

2011-10-26T10:30:00.007-04:00

Here we are, Handsomest Man in the World Day again! Here's somebody new. An Italian tenor named Vittorio Grigolo who is making news. He has appeared at the Metropolitan Opera in New York and will be at the L.A. Opera this year. He is hot and would be if he couldn't sing a note.

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Dear David,
I feel my penis is not big enough.
~Mr. Perplexed P.

Dear Mr. Perplexed P.,
Who's to say my darling, who's to say? This male thing about how everything looks can be turned in for "How does it feel?" I just finished a brief run in my musical "How to Be Gay in the 21st Century" in Fort Lauderdale, FL and I point out in that show that sex is about doing it, not how it looks. Women know this. It's time men did.

I think you are just being too tough on yourself. You are probably fine.

Things To Do When You Feel Lonely

2011-10-25T10:30:00.001-04:00
Dear David,
You may not remember me, but I knew you in New York some time ago when I was a photographer's assistant and you were Worldwide Creative Director for Revlon at Grey Advertising. You were openly gay then and made no big deal about it. And wore an Yves St. Laurent safari suit around New York when that was quite a startling look. Anyway, now that we are both past the mature period of our lives I find many friends are dead and I know fewer and fewer people. It's getting lonely. What do you do?
~Little Bit Lonely

Dear Little Bit,
Please, don't be lonely. Whenever I get a little depressed I direct my attention to others. I think contributing some time everyday to some charitable work is a great thing to do. I plan to work in a soup kitchen for the homeless when I have the time. There you will meet a lot of younger, charitably-minded people and even among the homeless you will meet some interesting people. How about volunteering at an orphanage or hospital with kids? There are so many people that could use your time and attention. Give it to them. I promise you won't be lonely anymore. And your overall health, energy and interest in life will pop, too, I'm sure.

How to Find a Good Man...

2011-10-24T10:00:00.009-04:00

Dear Mature Male,

This is the second part of a communication we started last Thursday. You’re the mature man of 47 who doesn’t feel like hanging out in clubs trying to pick up young men anymore.

First, let’s just think about whether you want to sleep (have sex) with another person more than a few times. If you think you can go beyond your repetitive sex pattern to exciting things with the same person, then here’s the plan:

Go to night school. Take something you are interested in but that will be primarily men. Automobile repair? Carpentry? There are probably all kinds of electronic stuff I know nothing about - IT, design, etc. There you will be with the same group of men for at least several months. They are the kind of men who want to learn more, grow more, go somewhere with their lives. A young man who interests you from this group will be a better bet for a long term relationship. Give this a go. I promise you, there will be some gay men there.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 4

2011-10-21T14:14:00.000-04:00

Here is a repost of "Come On Out! Episode 4" with David Leddick, where I interview my dear friend Reniel Diaz about his own personal coming out story.

Check back next week for a new interview (Episode 11). Enjoy your weekend!

Trying to Find A Life Partner

2011-10-20T11:00:00.007-04:00
Dear Diva,
Here's my problem. I am 47. Still attractive but feeling more and more out of place in clubs looking for younger men. And I stress "younger men." I can see this is not going anywhere in trying to find a life partner. What do you have as an answer for this?
~A Mature Male

Dear Mr. Mature Male,
Thanks for calling me a Diva. I am sort of. What do they say "A Legend in My Own Mind"? Anyway, you have a problem a lot of gay men have. And it isn't so much that a young man is out of the question as a partner but that you have a series of young men and I'll bet you do exactly the same thing sexually with each one. You need to move on, sleep with the same person a lot of times and see where you go sexually. You need to explore yourself, more than just do something that is just a step away from an inflatable doll or masturbation. Think about this and I am going to write you more on Monday.
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Fashion scoop for today, primarily for women:

1. This is a fantastic John Galliano dress in 2006 photographed by Nick Knight. Now that Mr. Galliano has disgraced himself by drinking and drugging too much and then insulting people in bars we won't see a lot more of these. He must have been trying to wreck his career just to get out of it. It a woman is going to wear a great dress, this is it. From Dior. It much still be around somewhere in somebody's closet.

2. Here is a fashion trend you do NOT need to follow. Heavy Black shadow under your eyes. This makes your eyes look smaller. This is anti-makeup. Please do not do it.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Model from Players 2

2011-10-19T11:00:00.001-04:00

As I said last week, I am adding sex questions to everyday reports. But Wednesday is still Handsomest Man in the World Day! My selection is a model from Rick Day's new photo book "Players 2 | The Art of Sex and Sports." This is a very sexy book, and this model has got it. He has to be a soccer player with those thighs. He's the Handsomest Man in the World this week!

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Dear David,
I feel I am only satisfied sexually and only feel comfortable with exotic beauties. Both in bed and out in public. I don't think I am vain when I say I am kind of a model type and can score these kinds of lovers. But I'm afraid I'm becoming superficial. I feel like my relationships are fundamentally about sex. But still I'm wondering should I continue to just go with it or should I try to reform myself and look for other qualities to turn me on?
~Dissatisfied

Dear Dissatisfied,
Beauty does turn us on but within each beauty is a real person. Sex is important but if you are just repeating the same kind of sex act and only changing the person you need to think about this. What you do in bed depends a lot on where you and the other person are heading in your sex relationship. Look for the feeling that you don't want this person to escape from your life. It's all about intimacy. Sex is a part of it but added is that you are a team facing life together. That is what you should be looking for. You are not superficial. You are just in the first phase of looking for intimacy.

Should I Take A Friendship to the Next Level?

2011-10-18T10:00:00.002-04:00

Dear DGD,
My problem is one that probably many people have. At the moment I do not have a lover or boyfriend. I have a good friend with whom I go to the movies, lunches, concerts, parties - that sort of thing. We really like each other and get along fine. But very recently I have begun to ask myself if I am not falling in love with him. I have no idea how he feels but I don't get any strong sense that he is romantically interested in me. What should I do?
~In A Quandry

Dear Mr. Quandry,
Here's what I think. For the moment do nothing. I want you to be sure you are really, really interested and not just going through a bit of a period with no love object. Love can creep up on you. I have had friends of some years suddenly announce they are interested in me in other ways so it can happen.

If the moment comes when you are sure you are in love with this guy or can be, state your case. Go to lunch, tell him how you feel. If he in no way feels the same it will probably end your friendship as it will be difficult for you to return to an earlier phase of your relationship with him. Or he may be harboring similar feelings. Don't be afraid to put it out there on the the table. But be prepared to go to the nearest bed. He may be wanting to get it on, too. But be brave and attack, but only when you are sure that is what you want.

Insomnipenis

2011-10-17T11:30:00.001-04:00
Dear David,
If I indulge in too much pornography when I close my eyes at night all I can see are penises. It makes it hard to fall asleep. Am I doing bad things to my brain?
~Insomnipenis

Dear Insomnipenis,
I am guessing that you are young. And maybe just have too much sex to get out of your system that is available to you. At any rate, if you are dreaming of penises and thus, perhaps you need to see more of the real thing other than your own. This is the 21st century. Everyone can adventure wherever they wish (just do it safely). Your job is to find out who you are.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 10

2011-10-14T11:00:00.002-04:00

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I interview Joshua Miranda about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Do not forget about my show OPENING TONIGHT, please come! Info at the top right of my blog >>>>>>

My Show Opens Tomorrow Night!

2011-10-13T10:30:00.017-04:00
Be there or be square! Info on the top right of the blog >>>>

It's Fashion Day!

I'm going to do women's fashion for the most part today. I thought this look of long slim pants and a matching top with men's style bomber jacket looks really good and new. Notice the short hair in a kind of sideswept bang. The heels are ok but you don't have to go there. It's very boyish without being mannish.

The long tight pants with the pink coat does this look also and note she's wearing tiny loafers. This is a very good look. Really, really plain but the pink makes it very memorable and you can wear it a lot of times. My big problem with a lot of fashion is that you can only wear it two or three times and then your friends think it's the only thing you have to wear. This stuff is much more in the French tradition where you buy something fairly expensive and wear it out. I like that.

This Dolce and Gabbana ad featuring Scarlett Johansson has shorter hair in that kind of old Hollywood look that I think is great (annnnd our favorite Handsomest Man in the World David Gandy!). I think men have much more inclination to touch this kind of hair than the long, straight look. And also this looks like a woman. The long, straight thing is strictly a girl.

Lastly for fashion, how about this DSquared red suit for men? I like their clothes a lot. And I am not big on men's necklaces but I think with the T-shirt and the suit, this could work.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Marton Csokas

2011-10-12T11:00:00.002-04:00
Do not forget about my show this weekend, please come! Info at the top right of my blog >>>>>>

This is Handsomest Man in the World Day! Marton Csokas is an actor who has recently appeared in "Debt", the newish Helen Mirren movie in which we see the cast as two young men and a women, and then again later when they are much older. Helen Mirren is the older woman. Marton is one of the younger men. It's not a very sympathetic role but he had something great going for him. Very manly yet with an emotional side. He can really act. His is from New Zealand and his background is Hungarian. He has got something, check him out.