My boyfriend travels a lot for his job ...

Dear David,
My boyfriend travels a lot for his job and lately I've gotten kind of obsessed with the idea that he is cheating on me while he travels. I call his room at the hotels he stays at way too much, trying to catch someone else answering the phone. I call the desk and ask if his "friend" has gone to the room. They always say "no" in a wondering voice. I have even thought of just flying to where he is and showing up unexpectedly. Is that crazy?
~Dee Sturbed

Dear Dee,
Yes. This is crazy. We only imagine each others behavior what we are capable of doing ourselves. Should he be worried that you are fooling around while he is out of town? You should think about this. Sounds like maybe you're the one who wants to be the "cheatin' heart."

He was a man and I like that in a person...

Dear David,
I find I am kind of stuck with a type of man I prefer. In my case fair, light hair - pretty much Northern European. This leaves a lot of men out of the mix. Anything I can do about this?
~Blonde Attraction

Dear Blonde Attraction,
I always quote Mae West "He was a man and I like that in a person." Being attracted to a type is usually happening when you are younger. After a couple of romantic rounds when should be able to realize you are attracted to the person more than their appearance. Maybe you haven't had enough love affairs. You could do something about this.

Help! Summertime is here and I need to lose about ten pounds

Dear David,
Oh my God, summertime is here and I need to lose about ten pounds. What do you do? Help please!!
~Lala Palooza

Dear Lala,
I'll bet you look great even with the ten unwanted pounds. But the best technique is to stop eating when you're not hungry. Even if you leave quite a lot of food on your plate. I find I'm full about halfway through the meal. Just stop there. And skip dessert and no bread. You'll be down rapidly.

At the moment I am doing Shape Lovers, a Miami area food delivery diet regime. Really great. They deliver two meals a day, for a little over $7.00 a meal. You eat nothing else and it's very tasty and filling - protein and vegetables, etc. You'll get stronger and thinner. I highly recommend it!

Should I have my neck done?

Dear David,
I want to have my neck done but I don't have the nerve. My partner thinks I'm foolish. I hate the way I look in the mirror but I'm afraid.
~Neck and Neck

Dear Neck and Neck,
Oh, please - just do it! It is the most certain of procedures. You will look ten years younger and you won't be dismayed when you look in the mirror. Email me: davidsgaydish@gmail.com if you need a doctor's address here in Miami.

Do you pay much attention to the news?

Dear David,Do you pay much attention to the news? My friends seem to be so absorbed in their job, their mother, their boyfriend (missing or present) that they don't even know where Afghanistan is, let alone the difference between Iraq and Iran. Not to mention Egypt. Do you pay attention to what goes on in the world?~The Observer

Dear Observer,Congratulations, my friend. I do feel that some gay men have a level of world awareness about the same as high school cheerleaders. If their world should suddenly take a big nosedive they would be taken completely by surprise. Fortunately for them, I think the world is heading towards much more awareness. The big rift between younger and the older is very international and all the unrest in Islamic countries is largely younger people knowing what is going on in the rest of the world and the controlling authorities not wanting to let go. Which is exactly what is happening in our own country. Darling, I don't know what you can do to wake up your friends to the world they are in. I guess just keep aware yourself so you can answer their questions should they ever come up. Lots of gay men are like married women from the last century. Why I really do not know...

Being Openly Gay...

Dear Daviddalulu,
You were just on a few radio shows and have been on the Huffington Post a couple of times recently. You don't seem to have any problem with being openly gay. Why is that?
~Your Love Slave

Dear Love Slave,
Where are you now that I need you?

I think I always knew guys liked me so it seemed pretty inevitable I would like them back. I have had periods where I wasn't someone's type, but once you've had a great romance you can endure that. And honey, if you're not openly gay how is someone going to find you? They're not going to approach you if you're pretending to be straight. Of course, me with my girlish appeal didn't have much luck pretending to be straight so I didn't bother. I don't know that I ever experienced homophobia, either. My nephew says, "You just didn't notice." I promise you, you're great just the way you are. Let the world pursue you!

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, etc. (gay or straight), you just might find your question and answer posted here on Davids Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! davidsgaydish@gmail.com

Advice On Helping A LGBT Teen

Dear David,
I just love it when someone starts his introduction with Hello My Darlings, it is just a loving heart. I have had a long life and thankfully have pretty good health. I have been privileged to have good gay friends who like to call me a "fag hag." I became a hair dresser and make-up artist schooled in Hollywood, went on to become a writer, director, producer for Walt Disney Productions. I'm so worried about my granddaughter who, I know, to be a lesbian. She is only 14, and I think her parents are ignoring who she is as though it will go away. She is moving into a dangerous period as she transitions from 8th grade to 9th and high school. How does one help a child make the transition?
~Shazza

Dear Shazza,
You are my darling and thank you for such a good question. I think the best way to communicate with a younger person is to remember what we were like at that age. High school is all about being popular and well-liked. Here in the 21st century there is a lot more openness about sexual orientation but high school seems to still be a harsh environment for being different. Remember all those folks we knew in high school and college? They all seemed a lot alike. Only as they move towards 30 did we discover how different they were.

I think I'd give her autobiographies to read of people you admire for whatever reason. Get her thinking about her goals beyond high school. If she's athletic there's the tennis player Martina Navratilova, if she's interested in acting/comedy there's Ellen Degeneres. I wouldn't skew it towards lesbianism particularly but get some stuff in there in the mix. Certainly the most important is that she knows you are there for her. I always say, "You're not getting older, you're getting more sophisticated." That's you. You know more about the world than her parents and she needs to know you are the bridge to her future. I had an aunt in New York who really launched me into the world and I am forever indebted to her. Your granddaughter needs to know you have that interest in her. Take her to lunch, too. My aunt did. At the Waldorf in New York. My first step to glamour and sophistication. It was great.

Best wishes and please keep me updated, you can write to davidsgaydish@gmail.com.

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What to do...

Dear David,
I am a gay man in his 40’s. Still good-looking. I have an off and on alcohol and drug background which I have gotten under control. But just recently I have fallen off the wagon and started using again. I need it to have an erection when I have sex. This concerns me a lot obviously. If I was your friend what would you tell me?
~Concerned

Dear Concerned,
One, you are my friend and this is what I am going to tell you. Since I don’t have a drug or booze background I don’t want to sound like those dreary folks that tell you that you must get a grip on yourself. It’s more like this. That erection is probably not a physical problem. As a good looking guy I am sure you’ve had plenty of attention and you haven’t really had intimacy when you had sex. Now as you mature your sub-conscious is pushing you to be intimate with your sex partner; to really let this person know who you are. And you don’t want to do this because, “Oh horrors” you are not worthy. So you can’t get it up. Instead of being horny you are afraid. And willy collapses. I see with a lot of my friends that they don’t want a lover to know who they really are. They want to remain an image. Could this possibly be it?

As far as you revealing yourself to a lover, just recognizing that you are unwilling to, gets you a step towards thinking better of yourself. Self-esteem is a tough problem to solve.

And may I add, I have always avoided booze and drugs because they damage your looks. And honey, in this world you need your looks. As they always said in the beauty business, “The world is out to get you and if you are beautiful it’s out to get you right away.” Vanity is a strong emotion. Use it.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 27

Today I'm talking about my latest book "How to Hit 70 Doing 100" for men and women, gay or straight - this book is for everyone and is a must to keep a positive outlook on life and aging!

"Don't think of yourself as getting older, think of yourself as getting more sophisticated"
~David Leddick

Fashion & Just Call Me DeeDee Leddick!

Fashion, fashion, fashion. What I have for you today is still about the jacket. The little jacket even looks great with shorts for those of you who have escaped south:

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Dear David,
I want to have a nickname. I never have and I just think it’s a personal and intimate thing I would like to have. Have you ever had a nickname?
~No Nickname


Dear Nick,
I’m giving you a nickname right now. It’s Bubbles. Do you remember Bubbles DeVere on “Little Britain”?

Yes, in college my fraternity brothers called me “Leddy.” Leddy Leddick. Is that sickening enough? My sister always called me “Davis.” I rather liked that. And my real nickname which only a few of the closest called me is “DeeDee.” Yup, that’s right, DeeDee Leddick. Please don’t tell anyone.