Handsomest Man in the World ~ Brazilian Suit Ad

This is the day of the week when we present the Handsomest Man in the World. How's this guy? I am just back from Sao Paulo, Brazil and this is a suit ad from a local magazine. Do you think this is how men are going to start showing up for business meetings? One can only hope.

Dating on Tight Schedule

Dear David,
I have just met someone with whom I really click. However we both have such tight schedules that we can really only meet about twice a week for an hour or so. We are having great sex rendezvous but little else. Can this go anywhere?
~Rex Rendezvous

Dear Double R.,
This is probably a love affair that is going to last for years and years if you stay on this schedule. I am not sure why your shcdeules are so tight and if you each have other meaningful others that are being left out of these bi-weekly flings. At any rate, I think this sounds great. If this becomes ever more important you will find those schedules opening up I am sure. In the meantime, welcome the fact that you are not going to get bored with each other any time soon.

Too Many Excuses...

Dear David,
I am very attracted to my partner and I enjoy his company a lot but the sex is often unfulfilling. After he has an orgasm the sex is pretty much finished. With some coaxing, I get to finish but that isn't very sexy. My sexual appetite is nearly insatiable, especially with this partner, but there is always an excuse why we can't do it. He's afraid to damage his bum, he gets a fever after sex, he doesn't want to become a sex addict, etc. Also, he always wants me to be the one to initiate sex and affection but often when I try I'm pushed away. He claims things will get better and that he as trust issues. Things have been getting better as time goes by but I need help deciding if I should hang in there.
~Trust Worthy

Dear Trust Worthy,
I think your partner has reluctancies about sex, no matter who he has a relationship with. Some people have worries about their health, their bodies, their guilts, who knows? Overall I would say that this is someone who will always be hesitant about sex. They are never going to throw themselves into it wholeheartedly. Unless, of course, they are less crazy about you than you are about them. If you are really feeling very intimate with this guy and want to build on it, go for it. If not and you don't really feel like a teammate, I think I would set both of you free to look for better sexual match-ups.

Cab in Sao Paulo ~ David's Gay Dish ~ Video

Here I am in a cab in crazy Sao Paulo, Brasil!

Black Diamonds Are a Girls Best Friend

Here we are on Fashion Day. Because I live in Miami Beach and flee to Uruguay during the brief weeks we call winter here I am never over the cold. So my advice tends to be about looking good more than keeping warm. But I think that’s a good goal, don’t you?

Anyway, here’s a couple of looks for you. I think you can wear a light colored suit in coldish weather. And I think wearing it over a T-shirt and with a scarf makes sense. I am not very pro-scarf, but filling in your neckline and keeping a bit warmer makes sense. This is a very good look. You do not have to take the mattress with you, although it might come in handy.

Also the longish shorts and striped T-shirt with a leather jacket and bag looks good. I am very opposed to leather jackets as I think people automatically assume you are into S&M. But here it works. Maybe because yachting and sadomasochism do NOT go together very much.

For the ladies: Turquoise. I think a big bulky sweater, coordinated color skirt that covers you up fairly well and sensible boots makes for a really excellent winter look. But the color needs to be dramatic. A big coat over it and you’re set. Just sexy enough.

Onto women’s jewelry: David Yurman, the New Tiffany, has a black diamond leopard bracelet very much like the one Cartier does. Gorgeous and expensive. Designed by Fawaz Gruosi and the jeweler is De Grisogno. This is all way out there stuff, but we can dream can’t we?

And everyone must have the new Slap-On watch in every color imaginable. I’m getting them here Miami Beach and showering them upon everyone I know. If you want one let me know.

Here's just one little picture extra from Sao Paulo, Brazil, from whence I have just come. Yes, the men do look like this there. Kiss me, you fool!

Handsomest Man in the World & Dating Advice

Handsomest Man in the World! I found this in a French gay magazine. I can’t believe he’s French. The ad is for Inderwear and they found a hottie for us. I have no idea who he is or where he is but he exists my dears, he exists. Dream on.
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Dear David,
How do you feel about my having a number of sex buddies, sex partners, men I date, whatever? I’m beginning to think that this completely unromantic kind of sex life is going to change me and I will not even be interested in romance eventually. Que pasa?
~Too Casual

Dear Too Casual,
I don’t think you are too casual. I think you are probably quite attractive and a lot of people want to go to bed with you and you are letting it happen. For myself, I don’t like to think of sex as something like tennis. That you just go out there and knock the ball around a couple times a week. I did that when I was in my teens (please, don’t tell my mother) and by the time I was twenty that period was over. You may just be doing a teen thing later. But to get the most out of sex, it shouldn’t be a sport but involved in a specific person. What is that old song? “He may be good f-ing but he’s no f-ing good.” So be it. Don’t worry about who he is. It should be someone that really presses all the buttons emotionally. Then you can reassure yourself that you have really lived.

Marriage. Children. No Sex Life.

Dear D. G. D.,
I am legally married to another man and we have two children. I love them all very much. But I don’t feel like having sex with my partner very often anymore. This bothers me. The whole reason I got into this in the first place was that I was crazy about him. Now what?
~Blaming Myself

Dear Blaming Yourself,
I love your title for me. D. G. D. Like Mother God Damn in the musical “South Pacific”. David God Damn. Anyway, about your sex life. Welcome to the world of heterosexuality. Romance kind of slides out the window once the kids can hear you in the night.

First of all, even though you have a nice domestic life, schedule some time away from the kids. Even if it means hiring a babysitter for a couple of hours and going to McDonald’s by yourselves where you can talk about sex. What haven’t you done yet you’d like to try? I think everyone is loaded with sex to the end of their lives. They just lose track of it in the bourgeois world where everything is about the neighbors, school, income, real estate. Don’t forget who you used to be and what you wanted to do sexually. You can do it. He’s right there in bed with you. How about a vacations without the kids? At least a weekend. I promise you, you must not lose track of your sexuality. I have written this before but the architect Buckminster Fuller said in an interview “As you get older you must not underestimate the importance of pornography.” You could buy some of my books. That could get you going.

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