Thursday, May 31, 2012

Fashion Day ~ bermuda shorts, braided jackets, & glass bracelets

Today is the day for some fashion weirdness. I have some stuff that has no relationship to anything but which I thought you would find interesting:

I found this photo of a man from the 1930's or 1940's in the classic Bermuda short. These were the kinds of shorts men wore if they had the never when I was in my 20s. I think they are hard to beat for a look.


Have I already shown you this jacket worn by one of the Green Day band? The one in the center. I love that braid. I am going to get one made like this.

And finally, Balenciaga is doing glass bracelets, shown here with a candlestick. They are probably insanely expensive but I think this is a great look. Very chic, very classy, looks expensive and it is not jewels. Let's hope someone make inexpensive copies soon!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Handsomest Man in the World ~ William Levy

William Levy. William Levy. William Levy. Do you hear me? William Levy! Mr. Levy IS the Handsomest Man in the World at this moment. A Cuban-American who lived in Miami then became a big Mexican Novella star and is on the show Dancing with the Stars. He has that Gary Cooper thing and a great face for the camera. I do not fall in love with anyone I have never met, but William Levy is a close call!

Friday, May 25, 2012

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 39

Welcome to the 39th Episode of "Come On Out! with David Leddick" where I talk to my pal Noel of the Shaun Dorsey Dance Company (San Francisco) about his personal coming out story and about dance.

Have a great holiday weekend my darlings!

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Seersucker, long hair, and tiny suits!

Fashion day once again and I have a lot of stuff for you!

This Armani check seersucker suit is THE suit for summer. Really great.

Hair. It seems to be coming back, longer and longer. I don't know how I feel about this. I would kind of like to to look a little more styled. But if shaggy manes for men are on the way in, I'm not going to get in the way!

Now listen, I was brought up with the brief bathing suit, which is still very present on European and South American beaches. Those big baggy surfer shorts that everyone wears looks funny and uncomfortable to me. You are there to swim, you know! There's nothing wrong with showing bulges. You are men! There is a photo of me on my last week's Huffington Post article (click here) in a very brief bikini. I promise you, that was not at all unusual at the time!

These Givenchy outfits with skirts? PLEASE avoid them. What are they thinking?!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Model

Here we are again, Handsomest Man in the World Day! I found this picture in a foreign magazine.  I think the guy on the right is the new look for handsomeness. Long curling hair, a moustache, latin-americanish. Very unique look with great facial features and beautiful eyes!

Dear David,
You always write about beauty and you seem to think it is very important. What about inner beauty?
~A Critic

Dear Critic,
I welcome criticism! I still have a lot to learn. You know, I always say there are only three reasons to know someone. They are beautiful, they are interesting or they are good. I agree that there is such a thing as inner beauty. Unfortunately we are not programmed to find it sexually exciting. and I think it is very important that we know ourselves sexually. I have only great admiration for people like nuns but there is a lot to learn as we are passing through this life that we cannot learn in a nunnery!

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Close my eyes...

Dear David,
Sometimes when I am having sex I close my eyes and pretend it is someone else. Have you ever done that?
~Vivid Imagination

Dear Vivid Imagination,
I have not. And if I was in that "position," I would get up and go home. You are in bed with the wrong person!

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, life, etc. (gay or straight) - you just might find your question and answer posted here on David's Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! 

Monday, May 21, 2012

In love with someone who does not love me back...

Happy Monday my darlings! If you haven't heard yet, my latest Huffington Post article "Being Gay in the World of Mad, Mad Men: What It Was Really Like" is up and causing quite a stir - read it for yourself by clicking here. I would love to hear your comments!

Dear David,
I always seem to be in love with someone who does not love me back. What is going on here?
~Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered

Dear Triple B.,
There are two things going here. One, you may just be having a run of bad luck. I would suggest that you consider letting someone love you instead of pursuing those impossible dreams of yours. Isn't there someone interested in you? Well, get involved. We all have to take our turn in the "barrel." And sometimes when someone loves you, you fall in love with them because they love you.

The other possibility is that you don't really want a romance so you choose the impossibility. Maybe all this love suffering is your version of being happy. Think about this...

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, life, etc. (gay or straight) - you just might find your question and answer posted here on David's Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! 

Friday, May 18, 2012

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 38

Welcome to the 38th Episode of "Come On Out! with David Leddick" where I talk to a my pal Shaun Dorsey of the Shaun Dorsey Dance Company (San Francisco) about dance and his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Gucci, summer shoes, and see-through jackets - oh my!

It's Fashion Day!

Okay, this Gucci check jacket with black collar and pocket trim is it. What a fabulous look. But only this and wear it out.

Can you see these shoes? I think this will be the summer shoe look this year. The kilty is back already. That fringed flap that used to be on the front of men's golf shoes and is now emerging everywhere. These are sort of open-sided sandals with a kilty flap. I want a pair.

Didn't I just tell you about the plastic see-through jacket? Here it is again! This is a Jill Sander sort of raincoat length. I want a short one. Somebody must be going to do them cheap very soon.


Dear David,
If you have been a bottom all your life into your mid-forties, can you shift gears and become a successful top?

Dear Flipping,
Of course you can! It just requires a long term lover. Many gay men only want one night stands so they can do the same repetitious thing over and over. Come on. Grow up. Get one sex partner and start exploring. You can top without getting on top, for a start. You need an experienced lover to lead you down some of those garden paths you haven't been down before. You'll be fine. I promise!

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Stefan Pinto

Oh who, who, who will be the Handsomest Man in the World this week? How about a guy we’ve featured two times before - my pal Stefan Pinto! Very handsome and a GREAT body. He used to be overweight when he was younger and is now a fitness and health guru. You can get his book "Fat-to-Fit: 50 Easy Ways to Lose Weight " at:

Here is a link to the first time we featured Stefan, and here is a link to the second time. I promise you won't be disappointed!


Dear David,
I just saw the Sean Dorsey Dance Company in “The History of Love” in Miami Beach. Do you think love is possible for everyone?
~The Love Questioner

Dear Love Questioner,
Yes, do not concern yourself with who is going to love you. Only think about who you want to love. Experiencing love is entirely up to you but often we was our time on unobtainable goals because we are afraid of what it would be like to actually be involved with another person. I know some people who just don’t want to spend the time it takes to be interested in someone other than themselves. People often fall in love with someone because that person is in love with them. I have. go fall in love with somebody, please!

I think you should see “Six dance lessons in six weeks”, the play that is at the Byron Carlyle Theater this weekend. Really fun and it has something to say.

Byron Carlyle 500 71st  Street,  Miami Beach
PHONE: 305-397-8977

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

Dear David,
I have just finished reading "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel." One character refers to a gay man as "playing the pink oboe." Have you heard this before?
~Music Lover

Dear Music Lover,
What gives with all this Indian stuff? This has to be the new "it" country. I think you have heard me refer to my fraternity brother Dick DeBolt that wrote all of these obsure lyrics to popular songs? At any rate, he used to refer to the "skin flute." But that is the only similar reference I have heard. Maybe this is just the new twist on an old saying.

Monday, May 14, 2012

Dating Someone from Another Culture/Religion

Dear David,
I have recently met a man from India who is very interested in me and I am very interested in him. But I have never been involved with someone from another culture/or different religion before. Should I advance with caution?
~At the Border Crossing

Dear B. C.,
A. The population of India for the most part are from the same mixed European stock as most of us in the United States. Actually, I have quite a lot of American Indian blood so I am more racially different than your new love interest. B. When Indian men are good looking they are the best looking men in the world! C. When you go to bed with someone you are not there to discuss religion. At least hopefully. Yes, advance madly. And if you decide not to, have him contact me.

Friday, May 11, 2012

Special ~ Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 37

Welcome to the 37th Episode of "Come On Out! with David Leddick" where I talk to a few of my pals from The Sean Dorsey Dance Company (based in San Francisco) about the show they are performing this Saturday night May 12, 2012 at 8pm - The Colony Theater on Lincoln Road (Miami Beach).

I will be there, and so should you! Please click here for tickets!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Men's Fashion & Artists Kehinde Wiley & Karen Kilimnik

Fashion this week will be for men and very avante garde:

I don't know why but I am nuts about this little plastic jacket. I'm not quite sure who is doing it on the haute couture level but my guess is you're going to see much less expensive copies right away.

This strange glitter top and shiny bloomers outfit is from Calvin Klein (of all people), and I would ordinarily shun it but with the plastic jacket you could strike quite a figure. You have to have some nerve to wear this but somehow I think it it very 21st century and not unmanly.

Hugo Boss has the look for summer in this pink jacket with grey pants, shirt, and tie. Boss is not considered up there with the big names but I always find the clothes are very well cut, make you look and are just daring enough.

This Armani white jacket look is great. This is what your jackets should look like.

I also want to talk to you a little bit about art today. There is an artist just coming on the scene, Kehinde Wiley. I bought two marble busts by him a few years ago and New York is now just catching on. He is a portrait painter, large scale, very classical technique but very modern subjects. I love him. I think this is where the 21st century art is going.

Also, look out for artist Karen Kilimnik. This painting of a British country house is part of an installation she does. She is at the Brant Foundation Art Study Center in Greenwich, Connecticut right now. That's a foundation created by the zillionare Peter Brant. Yes, he's married to Stephanie Seymour, the model. I remember Stephanie when she was working in New York at about the age of fourteen. She must have had a very ambitious mother. And look where she is now!

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Adam Fletcher

 This week's handsomest man is Adam Fletcher. He's from the UK. What a hunk! Photo by David Vance.

Also, please note David Vance has a new book "Jungle Fever." The book is available for pre-order now directly from his website, in the books section. All orders before May 15th will receive a complimentary 8.5x11 giclee print.
It is available now for pre-order directly from David Vance:

or on May 15th: please click here

Also, here is a preview video from youtube! Whew!


Dear David,
I understand you are working on a new book "Sexercise at Seventy." Are you for real? Can this be? Is it for men AND women?
~Miss Behaving

Dear Miss Behaving,
Where you inspired by that song "Ain't Misbehavin"? Evidently you are. To answer your question, yes, I am pretty well done with my new book "Sexercise at Seventy" which is a companion book for "How to Hit 70 Doing 100." I believe you can be sexually arousing, so you have to stay "sleepable" as I put it. I am consulting now on the women's part of the book now. So yes, the book is for men and women. We are doing photographs at the end of the month, stay tuned!

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

My grandfather was...

Dear Davidina,
I just found out that my grandfather was gay and liked to wear women's clothes. My grandmother was apparently not very happy about it. It's not a problem for me really, but I just had to tell someone about it.
~The Granddaughter

Dear Granddaughter,
Honey, homosexuality is hereditary in my thinking. My grandfather had two brothers that married very late and never had children. My great-grandfather was the only male in his generation to have children and had a younger brother who "liked to wear women's silk stockings" - so my great-aunt told me. And then said, "Oops."

(photo via

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, life, etc. (gay or straight) - you just might find your question and answer posted here on Davids Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings!


Please note: The Sean Dorsey Dance Company with be at The Colony Theater on Lincoln Road (Miami Beach) next Saturday night May 12th at 8pm. I will be there, and so should you! One of San Francisco's best dance troupe's. Male nudity. You have been warned! Please click here for tickets.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Can I fall in love with a "Rentboy"?

Dear David,
I was at the Hookie Awards in New York about a month ago. They are the awards sponsored by to select the top fifteen male escort "Rentboys" in the world. They were held in Roseland and about a thousand men were there. You never saw so much bare butt in your life! Anyway, I met a guy who was wearing nothing but a harness and we snookled around a little and actually think we both felt something beyond sex.

Since then we have kept in touch and I would like to invite him to visit me in my hometown. But on the other hand I say to myself, "This is a rentboy. Get real!" What do you think?
~Half in Love

Dear Half in Love,
Go for it! We probably have that "I could really love this person" about six times in our lives. Maximum. It's your bodies calling out to each other. Whether your personalities click or not really isn't important. You're not looking for a roommate. Please report back.

Please note: The Sean Dorsey Dance Company with be at The Colony Theater on Lincoln Road (Miami Beach) next Saturday night May 12th at 8pm. I will be there, and so should you! One of San Francisco's best dance troupe's. Male nudity. You have been warned! Please click here for tickets.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 36

Welcome to the 36th Episode of "Come On Out! with David Leddick" where I talk to my pal Manh Nguyen about his personal coming out story.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Ladies! Yellow Bags, Flowy Dresses, Adorably Messy Hair

Today I am going to do some women's fashion. When I read the fashion magazines I can't help but think that the big established ones like Vogue are missing the mark completely. They show unwearable expensive clothes accessorized as though you are going to perform in the circus. I don't think they get younger women at all. Here are some things I think younger women will like:

The Bag: I don't think this yellow bag by Mulberry is particularly expensive and it's the color of the season. Fashion is putting yourself together so you look better with one special thing that says, "Yes, I know what I'm doing." Yellow bags are going to be around.

The Dress: here's a dress from the ancient French house of Vionnet that is really good for a special event. This dress is certainly a fortune but something like it, sort of long and filmy with sequins to glitter will look great and you will be like a sea nymph emerging from the water. And you will still be more important that the dress.

Hair: I think all this long straight hair you see everywhere is going up. This is how I remember the 60s. And you don't have to cut it. You back-comb. You pile it up. It is falling here and there. You look an adorable mess. I think it is very Brigette Bardot. It is much more adult and sexy than that straight down look.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Hilfiger Ad Model

Today's Handsomest Man is the dark haired guy in the middle in this Hilfiger ad. He has that "look" he gives the camera that makes him very much present. There is an interchange the other models don't have. He should be going on to the movies. Anyone know his name??


Dear David,
I have a friend who is into all kinds of S. & M. stuff. Curiously, however, he also tell me that who is the most exciting for him is imagining what he is going to do than actually doing it, why could that be?
~ The Sex Reporter

Dear Sex Reporter,
I think this is the world of the isolated person, which is probably expanding around us all the time with all the texting and iphone stuff going on. Your friend lives in an imaginary world. Then when he brings it to life it is less thrilling. His sex life is really a form of masturbation. There are no real people in it for him. Perhaps real people intimidate him or he feels he is not as good as they are. It's hard to grow in this world and a lot of gay men aren't really trying. You might give him my book, "How To Be Gay in the 21st Century."

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Doomed to endless repetition

Dear David,
I see a lot of my friends having sex lives that have only one goal - a hot guy. They go to strip clubs, etc. to try to pick up men. They will even pay a stripper to have sex with them. They don't seem to want to know the other person or like the other person. It's just the body and then if they never see them again, that's okay. I see this as leading nowhere but they don't seem to. What gives in your opinion?
 ~I.M. Confused

Dear I.M.,
It is confusing. Here's my take: men are very competitive. Even more than sexual, perhaps. Gay men grow up in two ways as I perceive it. Either they are the pursued or the pursuer. The good-looking guys get used to being the center of attention and it very hard for them to give up everybody for somebody.

Those who are the pursuers get stuck in a rhythm where they are "getting" the sexy guy, which is only a goal or a type, not a person - like what your friends are doing. They are hunting down "prey", obeying ancient instincts. I also think intelligence has a lot to do with it. If you can't take a step back and observe your own behavior, see where it leads or doesn't lead and then change it, you are doomed to endless repetition. Not very cheerful is it?