All anyone is thinking about these days...

Dear David,
Sex, sex, sex. That seems to be all anyone is thinking about these days...
~Sex Fatigued

Dear Sex Fatigued,
It isn't your fault and it isn't their fault. Blame it on your body/hormones. No matter how anyone else is acting. They are either letting it happen or repressing it. It is your body, darling. And it doesn't ever go away, no matter what they tell you.

Unconfident about my body

Dear David,
I feel very unconfident about my body, although I have never had complaints. Is there an easy fix?
~The Busy Body

Dear B.B.,
From your signature I get the impression that unconfident body is getting around plenty. Yes, just put on a bathrobe and keep it on until the last split second. After that, it's too late for your bed companion to back out. And you're probably fine or you wouldn't be there in the first place.

Going somewhere for that redezvous? Take along a little shoulder bag with your lightweight rober within. What do you think is in all those big bags everyone is carrying anyways? Gym clothes?

(Photo via menshealth.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 23

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about some of my books. Enjoy!

And great news ~ my latest article for The Huffington Post entitled "The call me a Slut at 82" is up, click here to read!

Fashion & Just Call Me DeeDee Leddick!

Fashion, fashion, fashion. What I have for you today is still about the jacket. The little jacket even looks great with shorts for those of you who have escaped south:

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Dear David,
I want to have a nickname. I never have and I just think it’s a personal and intimate thing I would like to have. Have you ever had a nickname?
~No Nickname


Dear Nick,
I’m giving you a nickname right now. It’s Bubbles. Do you remember Bubbles DeVere on “Little Britain”?

Yes, in college my fraternity brothers called me “Leddy.” Leddy Leddick. Is that sickening enough? My sister always called me “Davis.” I rather liked that. And my real nickname which only a few of the closest called me is “DeeDee.” Yup, that’s right, DeeDee Leddick. Please don’t tell anyone.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Why it's ME!

Guess who is Handsomest Man in the World this week? It’s ME my darlings. I have new publicity stills from the magical David Vance. The gray jacket is a couture item from Paree. Don’t hate me.
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Dear David,
I have just taken a new job and suddenly I don’t feel my usual confident self. Any suggestions on how to keep up a brave front?
~A Little Down

Dear Little Down,
Up, my dear, up! You know that I always say that when we awake in the dark we are always seventeen. Full of self-doubts. You just haven’t been there long enough to show those folks how capable you are and yet so calm and funny and human at the same time. I also say, “The trick is not caring.” You’re just in a new job. Keep your emotions for your private life. Do not worry about what they will think of you. Concern yourself that you are really doing a good job. And as long as you are doing your best you can think well of yourself. When I worked for Revlon I used to say, “We brought them caviar and they just wanted peanut butter. So we’ll just give them peanut butter.” Do a really good job and then you can take it down a notch for those uncomprehending bosses.

I have always modeled my life on the great ballerinas...

(Ballet Russes by August Macke, 1912)

Dear David,
In last week’s blog you said you liked jewels. That doesn’t sound much like you, always so much more concentrated on what is happening between people than symbols of wealth. Explain, please.
~David Devoted

Dear Devoted One,
I love you. But you should know that I have always modeled my life on the great ballerinas. Lots of jewelry and houses in other countries - so you can flee on a moment’s notice and have somewhere else to live. At the Russian Revolution it was the ballerinas who beat it to France and England and then took care of all the other Russian refugees, mostly from the royal family.

I have always been aware that life can fall apart quite suddenly. I am a child of the Great Depression - hence my house in France and in Uraguay. Although, actually I am feeling very upbeat right now and think everything is going to work out great in the next few years.

Cozy Cuddler Needs Help!

I found this picture below in an avante garde magazine. I knew you all would enjoy it. It is from a series of photographs of men with french bread sticking out of their pants. Would you have guessed french bread? That is the interesting point of the photograph. It is meant to look like something else...

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Dear David,
I have a new lover and we get along great sexually but he is not at all cuddly in bed. Any suggestions?
~Cozy Cuddler

Dear Cozy Cuddler,
Get all that cozy cuddling out of the way before you make bamboola. If he likes to be isolated later, let it be. Get a big pillow and clutch that. He sounds great. Just imagine if he liked to cuddle but didn’t want to make bamboola?! That happens. Count yourself lucky.

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Fashion ~ Lovely Jewelry & Leopard Clutch

It’s fashion day!

I love jewelry. Just found this costume jewelry by Alexandre Vauthier. I like this kind of bulky jewelry that could be real. You will also notice that the “Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” look is here. You never know when a little fake leopard clutch purse will come in handy.

I think this jewelry is a copy of a real bijou worn by Mona von Bismarck, a wealthy fashion figure from the past. She started out the daughter of a stableman and later married a few wealthy man, then wound up in the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame in 1958.
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Dear David,
My mother recently has been acting as though she is deaf, which I don’t think she is. Also limps a little and says she may need a cane soon, although I think there is nothing at all wrong with her leg. What’s cooking?
~Smothered by Mother

Dear Smother,
You’re not one of the brothers are you? The Smothers Brothers? You are probably so young you don’t even know who they are. As for your mother, she is succumbing to the “Pity Poor Me” syndrome, that happens to older people. Take here to Miami Beach and let he see those high steppers in the sun. She’ll get over wanting to be older.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Cesar DeFuentes

Handsomest Man in the World today is Cesar DeFuentes, actor and adorable guy in Miami Beach. How about this brand new head shot from the incomparable David Vance?
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Dear David,
Should pickles be eaten with the fingers?
~Picky Eater

Dear Picky Eater,
No. The fingers should be eaten separately.

(This is an old joke but I love it.)

Dear David,
I have just moved in with my lover, who is relatively new in my life. While he was out of town for a few days I decided to be a saint and reorganize his closets and dresser. In his sweater drawer in the back under the sweaters I found a dildo. A sizable dildo. More sizable than me. He has never expressed dissatisfaction with me, but why do you think that dildo is among his possessions?
~Dildo Doubter

Dear Dildo Doubter,
Beats the hell out of me. But my guess is, he gave it a try and it was way too big. I don’t think you are going to have to do any strap-on duty.

Dear David,
A few months ago I was seeing two different men. One was definitely less interested than the other and now I am very much involved with the other, a man I am coming to love very much.

However, man #2 has called and wants to have dinner “just as friends.” I told this to my love and he seemed a little quiet about it. I accepted to go to dinner but now I think I made a mistake. Your advice, please.
~Tell me

Dear Tell Me,
You cannot go to dinner. You can go to lunch. Sleeping with someone after lunch is rare. You’re safe to do that. But if you are truly with your lover, his competition is out of the question. This isn’t just me, this is common social practice. I am sort of against being friends with ex’s anyway. It always gets messy. You can go to dinner with your new lover. That is ok. Bet the ex will not want to do that.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 21

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Dolph Spain about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Kenny Wormald

I have been saving this choice because it's a bit unusual, but Kenny Wormald is Handsomest Man in the World this week. He's an actor who came up through the ranks as a dancer. He's in a remake of "Footloose." He's got it. He's from Boston and that in itself is a bit unusual for Handsomest Man. They're so white there.

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Dear David,
I'm thinking of having my nose done - then maybe more men will like me.
~The Schnoz

Dear Schnoz,
Don't you dare. That is so 20th century. A big nose is aristocratic. A big nose is masculine. A big nose says you've got something else big lurking about on your premises. And then for some reason the plastic surgeons always make the nose too small. You tell me.

However if you need your neck tucked up, your eyes de-bagged and that kind of stuff, I'm all for it. You want your face to project you. And please don't tell me you're not lovable, I'm sure you are.

Gay actors staying in the closet

Dear David,
What's your feeling about gay actors staying in the closet and even getting married to women?
~Disappointed

Dear Disappointed,
I always quote Mae West's mother, when Mae didn't want to take a movie role because she didn't like it. Her mother said, "Oh Mae, don't be selfish. Think of your career." Exactly. Movie actors are very unlikely to love anyone because they are thinking of their career. Coming out means their career is pretty well over. The American public isn't ready for it. And I have to admit, even when I see Jody Foster playing a romantic lead I can't help but think, "Oh, come on. Really?" No, I think you have to accept if they are going to play hunky, sexy males they have to stay in there.

I don’t really feel like sleeping with my lover anymore...

Dear David,
I don’t really feel like sleeping with my lover anymore, should I?
~Bedtime Blues

Dear B.B.,
You never need to sleep with anyone if you don’t feel like it - however this is your lover. Are you doing the same routine thing in bed? Ask him what he would like to do that he hasn’t done yet. You might like it too. How about you? Is there stuff you would like to do that you haven’t done with him? Give him a couple of drinks and bend him to your will. I love it when people say “You made me do it.”

(photo via cosmopolitan.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 20

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk to my pal Karston about his personal coming out story. Enjoy!

Fashion Talk - Now that winter is here

Now that winter is here I have some suit looks for you so you can be great looking and still stay warm.

The one above is brown tweed from a company called Duckie Brown. The matching gloves come with them too, but I think that's going a bit too far.

The other is a black and white check and this really looks good. Again, you don't need the black and white gloves from Yohji Yamamoto. The suit is by Dries van Noten. Both of these suits have shortish jackets, tight waists, and are warm enough that you can probably scoot around town with a big scarf and you'll be fine without a coat during business hours. I think you can find suits like this for a lot less than the ones shown here.

I realize that a lot of you blogettes are not in cold climates so here a little item for people where it's hot. I love this hat. You'll have to dig around in second hand shops and then put some kind of battered flowers on the brim. Everything else you have on has to be really plain; black T-shirt and jeans for example. You will be the one. This look could be good for you girls too. We are in the 21st century, everyone can wear the same things.
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Dear David,
Do you have any sex questions?
~Interested

Dear Interested,
Yes, why do American men never look like they would really like to have sex? South American men always look like they can't wait. What's the deal?

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Giovanni Arvaneh

Someone new and different for you for Handsomest Man in the World this week, Mr. Giovanni Arvaneh an actor from Germany. I had lunch with him last week. He's got it!

Please click here for my interview with Giovanni about his wonderful new movie, Zenne Dancer.

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Dear David,
Do you ever look back on your past and realize there were men who wanted to sleep with you whom you turned down that now you wonder why you did?
~Regretting

Dear Regretting,
Of course, of course, of course. But when I pull up the whole situation it was always because I was involved with someone else at the time, which I think is correct behavior. And then there were other men that now I realize they were interested and it didn't connect at all. One of them said to me, "You have the emotions of a razor blade." I had no idea what he meant then. However I should add, I don't think I missed out on the love of my life and I don't think you did either.

Aging but Still Hot

Dear David,
At what age should a person stop thinking about sex?
~Aging but Still Hot

Dear Hot, Hot, Hot,
Never. Never stop thinking about sex. Your body needs it or you are going to get sick. Everybody knows that. I don't know what you consider aging, but you will be sexually with it as long as you have someone around who turns you on. If you're single, head south. Latin Americans might well find you worth some time and action. If not single, I kind of hate to suggest it, but maybe you will have to bite the bullet and do some cheating. And for god's sake, don't then go home and talk about it.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! Don't you have the feeling that 2012 is going to be great?! Maybe some things will be ending but other things will be starting and it could all go our way. Here's our first inquiry of 2012!

Dear David,
I have a friend, more an acquaintance, who is not only gay but very much of the traditional school with a high pitched voice, lots of exaggerated hand gestures, that walk as though he's wearing a tight skirt. You know, one of those guys who seems to have graduated from the Eve Arden school of charm. There aren't even any women around anymore like that. I feel that guys like this give being gay a bad name. Tell me. Should I try to make him act more butch?
~Confused About All This

Dear Confused,
You homophobe. Your acquaintance is just who he is. I don't think being 21st century gay menas acting like a baseball-paying heterosexual. It means live and let live. As you've heard me say many times. "You're always somebody's type." Someone out there is looking for a twitchy little honey just like him. On the other hand, you don't have to hang around with him if he makes you uncomfortable.