Handsomest Man in the World-Micheal Kors model

Who is the guy in the new Michael Kors ads? He is VERY handsome. He gets the Handsomest Man in the World award this week! Whew! What do you think?

Life can be complicated...

Dear David,
I am reading a really good book called "A Box of Darkness: The Story of A Marriage" by Sally Ryder Brady - her memoir about being in a long marriage and finding out right after her husband's death that her husband way gay. Do you think this happens often?
~Wonderin'

Dear Wonderin',
I wrote a book called "The Secret Lives of Married Men" about gay men who married women.

I think this is happening less and less because women are very well informed nowadays. I have read Mrs. Brady's book and thought it was great. Years ago women rarely had careers, were supposed to be virgins when they married and so on. And also I think men who are gay are less likely to lead a closeted life these days, as social pressure gets less and less all the time. What is interesting about this book is they did have good sex and she really loved him. She should have left at some point, but they had four children. Life can be complicated. It's up to you to try to keep it less complicated.

Can you just be in love with one part of your lover?

Dear David,
I read your blog last Thursday from Peter Perplexed and I am not sure that you can just be in love with one part of your lover. It doesn't seem to be very mature.
~Doubting Thomas

Dear D.T.,
I know, I know. But of course sex and love are not very mature. And perhaps if you only love one part and the rest of him is just no, it will inevitably not work out. But the rest of him might be fine. I do think you need to be hung up sexually on someone to really love them, otherwise it is just roommates with a little sex thrown in. And I find that immature.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 27

Today I'm talking about my latest book "How to Hit 70 Doing 100" for men and women, gay or straight - this book is for everyone and is a must to keep a positive outlook on life and aging!

"Don't think of yourself as getting older, think of yourself as getting more sophisticated"
~David Leddick

I love...

Dear David,
I love my boyfriend's penis, maybe more than I love him. Is that all right?
~PeterPerplexed

Dear Peter,
Honey, you've got to start somewhere.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Charles Devoe

Today is Wednesday and today's handsomest man is from a Mangano ad spread from a European magazine. The model's name is Charles Devoe and he is very handsome.

Sadly, Charles Devoe passed away last year, read more about his very successful modeling career while he was alive here.

(Photo: Mangano Campaign AW10 by Maurizio Montani featuring Charles Devoe)

What to do...

Dear David,
What do I do when I'm about the have sex with someone I like/am attracted to very much for the first time and I can't get it up?
~D.

Dear D.,
I've heard of this but I don't quite get it. If this other guy is so sexy what's bothering you? He's not going to like it? You're too big? You're not big enough? I think you should just go down on him and if you never get it up, who is to know? Actually, try thinking of someone you find fantastically sexy in the midst of everything and see it that doesn't energize you. I bet it will.

My boyfriend insists on...

Dear David,
My boyfriend insists on talking dirty to me while we have sex. He uses demeaning sayings like “Take it, b#%*h” or “You know you want it, sl#t.” This turns me off. He doesn’t do it all the time but he does it a lot. What do I do?
~M.I. Too nice

Dear M. I.,
I don’t think you’re too nice. But he isn’t really calling you those names, he is indulging in “repetitive sex.” Which I don’t like. Many relationships wither because the sex is always the same. That’s why a lot of gay men like one night stands. They can do the same tired old thing every time with a different person. I think you may want to try some new stuff on him to see if that stimulates him. Or just sit him down and say you have to do some innovative stuff. Drag him to a public bathroom. Or do it in an elevator late at night and hope no one else gets in. Stuff like that. Then he’ll probably say things like “Are you crazy?!” Which is much better.

My interview with PASSION radio show - Dr. Laurie Betito

Hello my friends and loved ones,
Last night I was on the PASSION radio show with Dr. Laurie Betito talking about sex, love and romance! Please click here to listen, I promise you will not be disappointed!

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 26

I have a new book to be published in May 2012 called "Gorgeous Gallery", click my video to hear all about it my darlings!

Fashion Talk ~ Long Hair is Everywhere!

It's fashion day! I just got back from Montevideo, Uruguay and men with long hair abound there. Even very long hair. Something to think about. They seem to be wearing almost shoulder length - it's summer so they don't have alot else going on. Think about it for next summer...

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Dear David,
My lover doesn't look at me when he kisses me. He either closes his eyes or looks off to the side. What does this mean when we are having sex?
~Look At Me

Dear Look At Me,
He may be thinking of someone else, or he just may find romance and sex too personal. I think I would just grab him and turn his face to me and say, "Look at me! I'm crazy about you!" Can you do that? It might advance your love affair to another level. It can't hurt to try.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Daniel

Handsomest Man in the World today is my friend Daniel. Daniel is very smart, funny and good looking. A good reason to head to Uruguay! The men down there are so handsome.

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Dear David,
I have a new boyfriend and I would like to invite him over for a homecooked meal (and more!) but I am a terrible cook. What should I do?
~Kitchen Clumsy

Dear K.K.,
I have written a novel called "Never Eat In." I am rather opposed to cooking at home as once they see you in the kitchen they tend to forget seeing you in bed. My second rule is "never go to the bathroom together." These are my two rules for a good relationship. Don't worry about cooking. Order in. That's all right.

It's Valentine's Day, the only holiday I really like...

It's Valentine's Day, the only holiday I really like. You don't have to pretend to have feelings you don't have. Here's an interesting inquiry that's all about love:

Dear David,
I am involved in a love affair. I don't know if it's real or not but he says things like "You just have to touch me and I get hard." There is really no future because there is an age difference but I feel very lucky to be in love with someone who seems to love me. What do you think?
~The Loved One

Dear Loved One,
Anyone involved in a love affair is lucky. Do you hear me?! Lucky. As to whether he really loves you or not, who knows and who cares? You're the one having the experience. One of my friends said when in a similar circumstance, "Either he is into me or he's the best actor in the world." I said, "What's the difference?" Go for it and enjoy it.

(Photo of me above by David Vance for my book "How to Be Gay in the 21st Century")

Sudden personality transformation...

Dear David,
I recently met a guy very nice, serious job, mid-thirties, good-looking. He seemed very interested in me and asked me out. We went to a very good dinner, had a few drinks, went back to his place, began making love and suddenly he slapped me very hard in the face. I laughed but the event was over. What do you think? Should I see this guy again?
~Anti S. & M.

Dear Anti,
And I'm pretty sure you are not an Aunty. Startling stuff when there is a sudden personality transformation. My immediate reaction is that this man is not for you. Because with that slap coming out of nowhere there are hidden depths. The nice guy you had dinner with is something of a front I think. What a person does sexually is the real person. I think you have to say adieu. Keep me posted if he calls and apologizes and wants to proceed further with the relationship. I'd like to know.

(photo via superstock.com)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 25

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about strivers, slackers and fantasists. Which out of the three do you think you are? I would love to here your comments!

Fashion Talk with David Leddick - video

Today I thought I would talk about the latest fashion I brought back from Montevideo, Uruguay in a video. Enjoy!

Any sexual regrets?

Dear David,
Do you have any sexual regrets?
~Just Wondering

Dear Just Wondering,
I'm not quite sure what you mean but if you are referring to family, children, etc. - definitely "No." My life has always been about romance, not domesticity. And in that field I regret nothing.

As far as directly sexual regrets, only one. The father of a man I was very much in love with but who never became my lover, wanted to sleep with me. It would have been a kind of act of revenge on his son. And for that reason I didn't. Now I think I should have.

The Men of Montevideo vs. Miami

Dear David,
I know you have been in Montevideo, Uruguay for the past three weeks. Is it true that the men are very good-looking there? How do they compare to the men in Miami Beach?
~Just Interested

Dear Just Interested,
I think that Montevideo and Miami Beach have the best looking men in any of the major cities that I have been in. The big difference is that the men in Miami Beach are very aware of it. And they are for the most part quite spoiled and have the gay thing of pretending they are not interested in anyone else.

In Montevideo they are so many good looking men that they think being handsome is normal and think little about it. And as you may have heard about the South American world, some think if you don't "bottom" you're not gay. And they are not at all egotistical.

(Photo of Montevideo, Uruguay via flickr)

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 24

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk more about my books. Enjoy!

If you haven't heard ~ my latest article for The Huffington Post entitled "The call me a Slut at 82" is up, click here to read!

Fashion Talk ~ Andrej Pejić

What I find intriguing is the new very successful blonde model who strangely enough is a man - Andrej Pejić. He is from Bosnia and Herzegovina and is working runway and now moving into fashion shoots. He has a lovely face, good hair and I just wonder about the shoes. When I do a drag role my feet are small enough that in really high heels they look okay. At least you don't particularly notice them. Feet are a drag queen's biggest problem.
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Dear David,
I just don't get foot fetishes. Do you?
~Feet on the ground

Dear Ms. Grounded,
Maybe it's just our feet. Are you tall like me? Perhaps our feet are just too far away from our heart. But kiss me and we're rockin'!

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Why it's...

...ME, again! Yes my darlings it's my blog, I thought why not?

Yet another fabulous publicity still from the magical David Vance.

Which one do you prefer? The one above or the one from last week? Click here to see last weeks publicity still.

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Dear David,
What do you like best about a man?
~Just Curious

Dear Just Curious,
Aren't you getting a little too personal? What have you heard?! Anyway, I always quote Mae West who said, "He was a man and I like that about a person."

Here are some other fantastic Mae West quotes:
"I only like two kinds of men, domestic and imported."

"I never worry about diets. The only carrots that interest me are the number you get in a diamond."

"A hard man is good to find."

"Don't keep a man guessing too long - he's sure to find the answer somewhere else."

"Give a man a free hand and he'll try to put it all over you."