What do you do when you are in the mood for sex and your partner isn't?
Dear Kinda Horny,
The perennial problem. I always give them a massage. If you don't know how to give a massage, go take some lessons. I particularly like to do that thing where you pull the muscles down through the arms with your fingers and then pull the stress out through each finger of the loved one's hand. First one hand, then the other. It feels so good for them. Same thing with the legs and feet. Massaging the bottom of the feet tickles but it really relaxes the whole body.
And I always give a good head massage up the neck, behind the ears, and over the top of the scalp. For some reason it relaxes your eyes, too. Use a lot of body lotion. What you do around the crotch is your business. Turn them over and I'll be they are ready to rock. If not, at least you've been a great and loving bed partner.