Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 31

Welcome to the 31st Episode of "Come on Out! with David Leddick" where I talk about sex and aging and how to look at it all in a positive way. Remember you're not getting older my darlings, just more sophisticated!

Mad Men Fashion

It's fashion time and I have to admit that I am in love with John Slattery. On "Mad Men" Jon Hamm is wonderful, handsome, you name it. But the really hot one is John Slattery. His role is the older guy who just can't give up on the sex part of his life. I love it and I knew men like that working in advertising. Believe me, forty years ago a great looking guy in a good suit who was hot did exist. And here he is again.

As for the blue jeans picture, I assure you, he would never wear them. Blue jeans and white hair just do not go together.

Some fashion additions since we are in the dressing up mode. I think the lavender shirt, which is being touted about town right now is correct. I think it is more masculine that pink and actually makes you look better. And fashion is all about you looking better.

Also, I am kind of getting into the bracelet mode. It's looking more manly to me all the time. Do not ignore David Yurman, although he is sort of pricey I think he is the new Tiffany. As for the neck chain, please don't do it. I can't think of an occasion when it doesn't make you wonder if the guy is really in the mafia.
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Dear David,
You advice please on the tuxedo without a bowtie.
~Jess Wonderin'

Dear Jess,
Please don't. I see the Academy Awards with everyone desperately trying to do something different with their tux. A tux is a tux. Maybe plus a big gardenia. That's it.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ GQ Magazine Model

I found this model in GQ and could not resist. He certainly has to be the Handsomest Man in the World this week. What's going on? Men are just getting handsomer and their bodies are just getting better and better. Is it hot in here or is it just me? (the title of my upcoming autobiography. Don't steal it).
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Dear David,
Apropos of your Handsomest Man in the World dish every Wednesday, I am currently nuts about a guy just because of his body. He is not one of those body-flaunters and actually seems interested in me as a person. I feel so superficial.
~Super Fishul

Dear Super F.,
You are, you are. But don't worry. You would kick yourself later if you skipped out on this hot relationship. Go after it and I'll bet you anything that body is going to become a three-dimensional person. I always say, "don't worry about table manners or bad teeth." You can always correct table manners and what do you think dentists or for?

My lover wants freedom...

Dear David,
My lover of 7 years has recently felt the need for freedom. He doesn't want to break up but is suggesting three ways. I said "No", and told him it was time for us to go our separate ways. Am I wrong?
~Recently Single

Dear Recently Single,
You are absolutely right. Once you start doing three ways your coupledom is over. You had a little secret world and you invited a stranger in. No way. And besides, in a three-way it's really a couple and a third party and I'm afraid the third party would be you. It's sad, but let him go. Your relationship evidently did it's arc and is over. Take a break. Something better is right over the horizon, I can feel it.

A great romance that lasts a lifetime?

Dear David,
I am a gay man who is not at all interested in getting married to another man or having children. I am very romantic and have this idea that you can have a great romance that lasts a lifetime. Am I a fool? Is there really nothing but what our parents did: hitch up with someone and when the attraction has faded fill your time with taking the kids to athletic events and a job you don't like very much. Tell me there is more than this!
~A Bit Discouraged

Dear A Bit Discouraged,
Don't be, my darling. I know when you look around you it doesn't look all that promising. The great romances like the Duke and Duchess of Windsor, Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, Steve McQueen and Ali McGraw, where are they? Were they ever what we thought they were? Yes, I think a great romance is quite possible. But you have to be ready for it. Not so much hunting for it everywhere, but realizing when someone pursues you that possibly this is it. Think about the added dimension of you two as a team against the world. There's nothing better and I do think the children, the house, the neighbors and all that middle class stuff wears away the caring and certainly your looks. You begin to think looks aren't that important. Elizabeth Taylor never did.

We all have our destiny. Try to feel it. Get out there. Be available. And I promise your great love is not online or in a bar somewhere. Keep your eyes open.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 30

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Fashion & Underwear Questions!

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Handsomest Man in the World ~ The New Versace "Bulge"

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What to do in an awkward situation

Dear David,
I went to a lecture recently followed by a reception by candelight. At the food table a homeless man stood riveted, reeking a variety of smells - the most pleasant of which was underarm. And he wouldn’t move as if he was afraid someone would avail themselves of the victuals. How would you have handled it? He stepped into a dream.
~Toivo Baubache

Dear Toivo,
With that name, what country could you have come from? Dreamland perhaps. As for your homeless man, perhaps he was stunned at the plenty before him and did not know what to do next. I think I would have stepped up and said, “Could I help you with something?” offering him a plate. I think the homeless, like the mentally ill, suffer from being ignored. Everybody acts as though they are not there. You must act as though they are clearly there. It welcomes them back into the real world and out of that dream.

(photo via bravotv.com)

Do I Talk About My Scars?

Hi David,
I am a single woman who opted for a bilateral mastectomy when I was diagnosed with breast cancer in late 2010. After the surgery I took advantage of the insurance coverage and the excellent cosmetic surgeons in the Miami area and had both breasts redone. My cancer is gone, my health is good and I have two lovely new breasts.

I am back on the dating scene and hope that sex is back in my life soon. I never think or talk about my cancer but I feel awkward because my breasts reveal the obvious scars of a radical mastectomy (the scars will fade with time). Should I tell my future lover about my illness and surgery prior to becoming intimate to prep him mentally or say nothing and hope all goes smoothly? My breasts do not look like "Franken-boobs", they actually look quite lovely just with some scars.

I welcome your suggestions and advice.
~Lovely One

Dear Lovely One,
And somehow I’m sure you are, from the tone of your message. What comes to mind immediately is a really lovely negligee and low lights. I am sure that you are beyond the tusseling on the couch phase. If some man is lucky enough to spend the night with you, you can welcome him to your bedroom, slip off to the bathroom and reemerge in your lacy negligee which will shadow everything. You might even turn off the lights and light some low candles, which many people would do anyway.

My other thought is to keep on a really beautiful bra. Often in films I see the more "sophisticated" actresses keeping on their bra doing a love scene. If Julia Roberts can do it, you can!

Actually, I don’t think you have any problems. Remember men get very excited. They don’t notice a whole lot in the flurry of the moment. I wish you lots of luck in your new adventures. In everyone’s lives these adventures are very important!

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, life, etc. (gay or straight), you just might find your question and answer posted here on Davids Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! davidsgaydish@gmail.com

"A Cure for Homophobia" ~ Youtube Video

Content Warning! Explicit words & definitely for 18 years & older. We suggest clicking on this at home my darlings, not at work!

I came across this hilarious video on youtube "A Cure for Homophobia (NSFW)" and thought I would share. It's a funny spoof of a late-night prescription drug ad you'd see on TV, and as the above headline suggests it's a cure for homophobia.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ Peter Bici

The Handsomest Man in the World this week is Peter Bici, firefighter. VMAN magazine did a section on handsome "real guys" in many different professions. Mr. Bici was professional skateboarder and model for Calvin Klien, among others. Now he's fighting fires. Including the one in my heart!

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Dear David,
I am of Italian decent and have that very usual Italian problem - the mother who thinks you don't love her enough. We speak everyday on the phone and her modus operandi is unending complaints. What should I do?
~Mother Beseiged

Dear Mother Beseiged,
Buy her expensive presents. Send her a cashmere sweater. A bracelet. You don't have to see her if she can show off to her friends that you are successful enough to spend money on her. As I have always said, "Most problems go away when you throw money at them."

Being Openly Gay...

Dear Daviddalulu,
You were just on a few radio shows and have been on the Huffington Post a couple of times recently. You don't seem to have any problem with being openly gay. Why is that?
~Your Love Slave

Dear Love Slave,
Where are you now that I need you?

I think I always knew guys liked me so it seemed pretty inevitable I would like them back. I have had periods where I wasn't someone's type, but once you've had a great romance you can endure that. And honey, if you're not openly gay how is someone going to find you? They're not going to approach you if you're pretending to be straight. Of course, me with my girlish appeal didn't have much luck pretending to be straight so I didn't bother. I don't know that I ever experienced homophobia, either. My nephew says, "You just didn't notice." I promise you, you're great just the way you are. Let the world pursue you!

If anyone reading needs advice about love, sex, relationships, etc. (gay or straight), you just might find your question and answer posted here on Davids Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! davidsgaydish@gmail.com

Advice On Helping A LGBT Teen

Dear David,
I just love it when someone starts his introduction with Hello My Darlings, it is just a loving heart. I have had a long life and thankfully have pretty good health. I have been privileged to have good gay friends who like to call me a "fag hag." I became a hair dresser and make-up artist schooled in Hollywood, went on to become a writer, director, producer for Walt Disney Productions. I'm so worried about my granddaughter who, I know, to be a lesbian. She is only 14, and I think her parents are ignoring who she is as though it will go away. She is moving into a dangerous period as she transitions from 8th grade to 9th and high school. How does one help a child make the transition?
~Shazza

Dear Shazza,
You are my darling and thank you for such a good question. I think the best way to communicate with a younger person is to remember what we were like at that age. High school is all about being popular and well-liked. Here in the 21st century there is a lot more openness about sexual orientation but high school seems to still be a harsh environment for being different. Remember all those folks we knew in high school and college? They all seemed a lot alike. Only as they move towards 30 did we discover how different they were.

I think I'd give her autobiographies to read of people you admire for whatever reason. Get her thinking about her goals beyond high school. If she's athletic there's the tennis player Martina Navratilova, if she's interested in acting/comedy there's Ellen Degeneres. I wouldn't skew it towards lesbianism particularly but get some stuff in there in the mix. Certainly the most important is that she knows you are there for her. I always say, "You're not getting older, you're getting more sophisticated." That's you. You know more about the world than her parents and she needs to know you are the bridge to her future. I had an aunt in New York who really launched me into the world and I am forever indebted to her. Your granddaughter needs to know you have that interest in her. Take her to lunch, too. My aunt did. At the Waldorf in New York. My first step to glamour and sophistication. It was great.

Best wishes and please keep me updated, you can write to davidsgaydish@gmail.com.

If anyone else reading needs advice, you just might find your question and answer posted here on Davids Gay Dish. Contact me today my darlings! davidsgaydish@gmail.com

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 29

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick where I chat with two of my dear friends and former colleagues about working in the advertising and design world in New York City and whether or not being my being gay factored into my work.

What are your thoughts on the subject?

Fashion, Fashion & more Fashion!

It is fashion day! If you haven't seen already, I have two new publicity pictures by the fabulous David Vance:

And next, I want a jacket like the John Varvatos in the middle with all the braid "frogs" and buttons:

Men, this guy in brown kind of wraps up the look for colder weather:

Small jacket, big scarf, round glasses, that little pyramid upswept hairdo, button front sweater (the cardigan). Pushed up sleeves may be further than I want to go as I do want to bend my elbows and it looks like he's got on some kind of extra sweater sleeves as gloves which I have not seen before, but overall this is high fashion for men and I think it looks good. The guy in the photo above Bernhoft is Norwegian and sings like a soulful star. Listen, I pointed out Lana del Ray to you before she hit. Keep your eye out for Bernhoft!

Here is high hair as it should look if you can pull it off:

And here's the little jacket, messy hair, short pants, no socks look and it is working. I think you have to be fairly young to make this a go:

And LADIES!

I found this look in a magazine and it has to be the WORST look of the year. Imagine appearing in public like this, with your knickers sort of slipping out of your baggy pantaloons. Fashion is supposed to make you look better, not a laughing stock:

To make you feel better, that classic old reliable Valentino has beautiful lace dresses: the short white one. The long red one.

Why didn't anyone wear anything like those Valentino dresses above at the academy awards? Only Ema Stone looked chic:

The others? Ridiculous! As though they have never worn an evening gown in their lives.

Handsomest Man in the World ~ David Gandy

Here he is, revisiting us once again- the English model David Gandy. How did someone English get this hot? He is working in the US right now and they are managing to make him look less than his best. But not here!
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Dear David,
I am very handsome and have a great body but I think my penis is too small. This bothers me.
~Wee Winkie Willie

Dear Willie,
You guys make me laugh. You probably have a perfectly swell six inches (the national average) and think it is not enough because of all those whangers you see in porn movies. Those are definitely the exception. And as they always say backstage at the Opera, "It ain't the meat it's the motion." Most guys welcome something that doesn't look like a baseball bat. Get with it Willie, you're fine. And how about falling in love? Intimacy is NOT about size.

Is Beauty Important?

Dear Davidina,
I just read your blog and you are always going on about beauty. Is it really so important? Isn’t your take on it kind of superficial?
~Fallopia

Dear Fallopia,
Davidina? I love it. I think I will put a new cabaret act together featuring Davidina DeLux. How about that?

Okay, beauty. This comes to my mind. E.B. White the writer, said of New York, “Beautiful women are the flowers of the city.” The Victorians thought exterior beauty revealed a beautiful soul within. I wrote an article for Vogue once and I said, “Everyone is beautiful at their best.” You have to take yourself and be your best physically. In our culture, television, movies, mass sports, everything makes us into spectators. I don’t want to be a spectator. I want to live and I think you should too. And if you want to live you must bring everything you’ve got to the party. Yes, you need to make the world more beautiful. When I was dancing at the Opera in New York a friend said, “You’re very smart, David, but nobody wants to f@#k brains.” I learned my lesson.

(Photo above of Saki Rouva)

What to do...

Dear David,
I am a gay man in his 40’s. Still good-looking. I have an off and on alcohol and drug background which I have gotten under control. But just recently I have fallen off the wagon and started using again. I need it to have an erection when I have sex. This concerns me a lot obviously. If I was your friend what would you tell me?
~Concerned

Dear Concerned,
One, you are my friend and this is what I am going to tell you. Since I don’t have a drug or booze background I don’t want to sound like those dreary folks that tell you that you must get a grip on yourself. It’s more like this. That erection is probably not a physical problem. As a good looking guy I am sure you’ve had plenty of attention and you haven’t really had intimacy when you had sex. Now as you mature your sub-conscious is pushing you to be intimate with your sex partner; to really let this person know who you are. And you don’t want to do this because, “Oh horrors” you are not worthy. So you can’t get it up. Instead of being horny you are afraid. And willy collapses. I see with a lot of my friends that they don’t want a lover to know who they really are. They want to remain an image. Could this possibly be it?

As far as you revealing yourself to a lover, just recognizing that you are unwilling to, gets you a step towards thinking better of yourself. Self-esteem is a tough problem to solve.

And may I add, I have always avoided booze and drugs because they damage your looks. And honey, in this world you need your looks. As they always said in the beauty business, “The world is out to get you and if you are beautiful it’s out to get you right away.” Vanity is a strong emotion. Use it.

Come On Out! with David Leddick ~ Episode 28

Welcome to today's episode of Come On Out! with David Leddick, where I talk about the autobiographies of Gary Cooper and Diana Vreeland. I am writing my autobiography called "Is It Hot In Here Or Is It Just Me?"

Uno de 50 & Tab Hunter vs. Henry the Eighth

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Tab Hunter

Henry the Eighth


Dear David,
I married a Tab Hunter lookalike and now have wound up with Henry the Eighth’s twin. I do not feel like having sex with him at all. Do I have to?
~Uninterested

Dear U.N.,
Can you spell “No”? No you do not have to sleep with someone who has lost all their sexual appeal. Particularly by eating too much. I cannot understand these people who would rather eat then “f*ck.” As they say in the modeling industry, “Lose twenty pounds and come back.” Good luck.